toughlovin
Well-Known Member
So I had lunch with an old friend today who I have known for a long time. She knows my kids and has always been supportive. I dont see her very often so she has not been in on the day to day blow by blow situation with difficult child. The last time I saw her he was travelling around the country but had not been homeless for very long. This friend does not have children herself although she loves kids.
So I was brining her up to date... and was telling her about the night he got back to CA, lost his ID and was not sure he would get into treatment. She just said "well that is not your problem, you cant keep rescuing him". I was like wait I let him be homeless for 5 months.... I cant turn my back on him when he is wanting help!!!!
She did back off and we went on to have a nice lunch.... but the ending felt weird. And for some reason this interaction bugs me. I felt so darned defensive and misunderstood and darn it you all know I have hung tough and let him be on the streets for 5 long months in the middle of winter.... and I will let him be homeless again if I have too. It does not seem like the time to turn my back on him would be when he has the flu, is coughing up blood, lost his id while he was waiting til the next day to get into treatmen!
Sometimes I am surprised at peoples reactions who have not been there done that!!!
On another note I have been and listening to the book on tape "Clean" by David Sheff. Very interesting, very well researched and gives some food for thought. It puts what we have been through into perspective... our treatment system for addicts is truly messed up!!
TL
So I was brining her up to date... and was telling her about the night he got back to CA, lost his ID and was not sure he would get into treatment. She just said "well that is not your problem, you cant keep rescuing him". I was like wait I let him be homeless for 5 months.... I cant turn my back on him when he is wanting help!!!!
She did back off and we went on to have a nice lunch.... but the ending felt weird. And for some reason this interaction bugs me. I felt so darned defensive and misunderstood and darn it you all know I have hung tough and let him be on the streets for 5 long months in the middle of winter.... and I will let him be homeless again if I have too. It does not seem like the time to turn my back on him would be when he has the flu, is coughing up blood, lost his id while he was waiting til the next day to get into treatmen!
Sometimes I am surprised at peoples reactions who have not been there done that!!!
On another note I have been and listening to the book on tape "Clean" by David Sheff. Very interesting, very well researched and gives some food for thought. It puts what we have been through into perspective... our treatment system for addicts is truly messed up!!
TL