I think you need to post a sign at the beginning of the property that says, "The Buck Stops Here."
Okay, got that out of my system, Well,maybe it needs another sign that says that "Bucks on the property past this point will be castrated"
Janet, lol on the neighbor kid barging in!! Reminds me of my 4yo cousin who took six kids from the neighborhood into the bathroom while my aunt was taking a shower. He wanted to know if he could go do something or other and he insisted that all of the kids had to go with him into the bathroom. That was the last day with clear shower doors, lol.
I do NOT think that being naked in the living room is a good idea. regardless of what you look like, Buck is the kind of person who would use that as an excuse to either rape you or tell Tony that you came on to him. Actually he would probably do both and given his ability to get Tony to believe him, I don't know what would happen. I am sure that Buck would see no problem with assaulting you. If you are out of the way, he can grab more of Tony's assets and of yours. He also would get you out of the way, and that would make him very happy.
Keep an eye out on the daily deal sites. There are also other sites that might have low priced cameras. At the very least, get a cheap big lots video camera.
I do think that mattsmom has the right idea. Buck has wrecked the last year or more of your life. If Tony cannot see this, shove it into his face and down his throat. If you want me to write a note to him and pm it to you, I would be happy to. If it would help to explain that this is NOT how family treats family, and if it would help him see how dangerous this man is, then I would do this with-o a problem. Or I could call him or you could call me when it would be a good time to talk to him and I would talk to him.
From now on, make sure that Cory is never there when you no one is home. Make sure you are out in the living room whenever possible while he is there. Thsi wll let you Tony that you know that Cory doesn't do X and didn 't take Z. It isn't something you do because you suspect Cory, it s something that will PROTECT him from accusation.
I would pay for the report on buck's warrants and past crimes. I would also call wherever he has a warrant and tell them where he is, that he is using, and anything else that might light a fire under them.
Start calling the cops every single time he does ANYTHING wrong. Esp coming in with-o you opening the door. If he is driving? Call the cops and tell them that h is driving with a suspended license and get him pulled over. Warn them that he does drugs and drinks and may be under the influence. Make sure you have his tag number and the make and model of his car so you can give them that. Do it every. single. time.
In the rules that you post, one NEEDS to be that Buck cannot come over on weekdays except for one specific day. maybe Wed as that is usually the night that churches have bible study, etc...
I hope that you can get him out of your life soon. I wish it was possible for you, the 3 boys, and Tony's brother Van and his wife could do an intervention on Tony. This Buck codependent thing is not healthy at all.