Normal good moms are tough, proactive, and can confront what they need to.
Errr... I guess it really depends on your idea of "normal", hon. There have been a LOT of times that I have just sat and bawled my everlovin' eyes out because I just did not know what to do. About school, about Onyxx & Jett's bio mom, about Onyxx and her behavior/drug use/MH issues, about husband's oldest son, heck about husband!!! School is a HUGE, HUGE thing for me. Some kids aren't made for mainstream school... I hated it because I was immature and a crybaby, but at the same time I relished the work itself. I love to learn new things.
Right now I am about ready to go OFF on Jett's school (and Jett FWIW). I finally got the access code to look at his grades online and I am LIVID. He's been back in school for 3.5 weeks and has a "D" average. Guess what? Not a single email from a single teacher. husband hasn't gotten any, either. Missing assignments all over the place. I'd rather have the communication so I can confront Jett and tackle the problem head-on. Even the SPED hasn't contacted us at ALL. Now I realize way-back-when, my parents would've had no clue till report cards came out, but the teachers DID call when there was an issue.
I've had to develop rhino skin, dealing with Onyxx & Jett's bio mom and the courts, and Onyxx's issues. So I'm toughened some - but when I logged in today and saw "35.63% - F" I wanted to cry. Obviously being proactive (well, trying) isn't helping. I get really frustrated when they nod and smile and agree and then didn't listen at all!!! Not just the teachers, either - the kids!
I'm sending you my spare Warrior-Mom Rhino Skin. It's shiny, but there are a few dents and places I've had to mend it over time. However, it is in great condition - wear it well and be proud, just asking for help is being a GOOD MOM!!!