gcvmom
Here we go again!
I forgot to pick him up from school today. I had easy child and difficult child 2 plus two extra kids here after school (their mom works with husband and needed a favor) and I had my mind wrapped up in husband's potential layoff, and the time got away from me. So difficult child 1 was calling me at 4:30 from the 7-11 payphone, irritated that I'd forgotten to get him (he'd been waiting 45 min). He starts telling me that I OWE him 2 hours of computer game time. Huh? I said we'll see about it if he gets his homework done.
So I hurried down to the convenience store where he called from and he WASN'T THERE. I usually pick him up at the church across the street, so after asking at the shop and the hairdresser's next door (in case he popped in there to use the restroom), I decided to check the church parking lot. He was out on the sidewalk pacing and pi$$ed.
I was annoyed that he wasn't where he called me from, and told him so when he got in the van. He laid into me about me forgetting him, and I told him that was inappropriate and out of line for him to speak to me in the tone he was using. He snarled back. I told him maybe he should have just walked home. Okay, I admit, it's escalating now.
He then said maybe he should just slap me upside the head (!) That's when I just about slammed on the brakes. I told him he could forget about any computer or video time today and he could just walk to school and home again tomorrow and that his comment was waaaaay out of line.
So now he's REALLY ticked.
He's been pouting all evening. He came out after working on homework and started to turn on the TV. I asked if all his work was done, and he said yes. I asked to see his planner, so he led me to his room to show me and realized he still hadn't finished an assignment for a class he missed yesterday.
By then it was time for him to eat, so he came out to the diningroom. Afterwards, he goes back to the couch to turn the TV on again. I asked if he was done with his homework (I knew he hadn't had time to finish the other worksheet). He went back to his room to get it to show me. Well, he'd filled in the answers, but didn't show his work (makes me wonder if he got the answers from somewhere else, but that's another story). I pointed out the instructions at the top of the page that he was to show his work.
That just ticked him off even more. He stomped back in his room mumbling something about me being so stubborn and not fair. I can hear him in there playing with his Nerf gun -- it's a shotgun style and he's just playing with the bolt or whatever, over and over and over. And he still hasn't done the worksheet.
Ugh. I hope he settles down. I hate it when he gets like this and I'm starting to worry a little about it. His "episodes" like this are usually at the end of the day, or when his medications are wearing off and I can see that it's happening again. I'm going to have to be careful this doesn't escalate into something really ugly with doors slamming, things being thrown, and him running off down the street for a while to cool off. It seems to be a pattern lately and I'm going to have to talk to the psychiatrist about it if I don't see a change soon.
So I hurried down to the convenience store where he called from and he WASN'T THERE. I usually pick him up at the church across the street, so after asking at the shop and the hairdresser's next door (in case he popped in there to use the restroom), I decided to check the church parking lot. He was out on the sidewalk pacing and pi$$ed.
I was annoyed that he wasn't where he called me from, and told him so when he got in the van. He laid into me about me forgetting him, and I told him that was inappropriate and out of line for him to speak to me in the tone he was using. He snarled back. I told him maybe he should have just walked home. Okay, I admit, it's escalating now.
He then said maybe he should just slap me upside the head (!) That's when I just about slammed on the brakes. I told him he could forget about any computer or video time today and he could just walk to school and home again tomorrow and that his comment was waaaaay out of line.
So now he's REALLY ticked.
He's been pouting all evening. He came out after working on homework and started to turn on the TV. I asked if all his work was done, and he said yes. I asked to see his planner, so he led me to his room to show me and realized he still hadn't finished an assignment for a class he missed yesterday.
By then it was time for him to eat, so he came out to the diningroom. Afterwards, he goes back to the couch to turn the TV on again. I asked if he was done with his homework (I knew he hadn't had time to finish the other worksheet). He went back to his room to get it to show me. Well, he'd filled in the answers, but didn't show his work (makes me wonder if he got the answers from somewhere else, but that's another story). I pointed out the instructions at the top of the page that he was to show his work.
That just ticked him off even more. He stomped back in his room mumbling something about me being so stubborn and not fair. I can hear him in there playing with his Nerf gun -- it's a shotgun style and he's just playing with the bolt or whatever, over and over and over. And he still hasn't done the worksheet.
Ugh. I hope he settles down. I hate it when he gets like this and I'm starting to worry a little about it. His "episodes" like this are usually at the end of the day, or when his medications are wearing off and I can see that it's happening again. I'm going to have to be careful this doesn't escalate into something really ugly with doors slamming, things being thrown, and him running off down the street for a while to cool off. It seems to be a pattern lately and I'm going to have to talk to the psychiatrist about it if I don't see a change soon.