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Our oldest son got engaged in July --now she is pregnant. Her family is going to give her a baby shower in Kansas where they are from so I decided to have one here for our family and friends. I know that etiquite says the mother should not host a shower but i didn't want my family being completely left out because we can not go hundreds of miles for this. I asked the couple to give me a list of friends that they wanted to invite.
The hall that I have rented only holds 70 people. When i asked for the list -our to be daughter in law gave me her mothers list and there are over 60 people on this list -people from her church because they will give her good gifts. I explained to our "daughter" that there is not enough room for that many people especially since NONE of my sons or our family or friends are yet to be included in this event that as of yet I have paid over $200.00 for and have not yet bought the food or the cake.
After talking to our "daughter" --she decided to cut the list for invitaitons and post a page on facebook which still does not help with the actual issue. Well then she went and told her mom that I cut all of her moms church friends off the list and the mother confronted my son yesterday.
I am upset now and am thinking I should just cancel the whole thing. They are having there own in Kansas so why does she have to have so many of HER friends at MY shower just because of the gifts. We were wanting to do it so that we could share time and fun with our family and friends.
I got mad last night and told my son that if the mom has a problem tell her to talk to me directly since I am the one throwing the shower.
I don't know what to do--anybody got any suggestions. I am so upset that I could not sleep last night!
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The hall that I have rented only holds 70 people. When i asked for the list -our to be daughter in law gave me her mothers list and there are over 60 people on this list -people from her church because they will give her good gifts. I explained to our "daughter" that there is not enough room for that many people especially since NONE of my sons or our family or friends are yet to be included in this event that as of yet I have paid over $200.00 for and have not yet bought the food or the cake.
After talking to our "daughter" --she decided to cut the list for invitaitons and post a page on facebook which still does not help with the actual issue. Well then she went and told her mom that I cut all of her moms church friends off the list and the mother confronted my son yesterday.
I am upset now and am thinking I should just cancel the whole thing. They are having there own in Kansas so why does she have to have so many of HER friends at MY shower just because of the gifts. We were wanting to do it so that we could share time and fun with our family and friends.
I got mad last night and told my son that if the mom has a problem tell her to talk to me directly since I am the one throwing the shower.
I don't know what to do--anybody got any suggestions. I am so upset that I could not sleep last night!
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