Hi all,
I'm posting this on the behalf of my sister (without her knowing), and would like to know if there are any other struggling parents out there with this type of issue.
My sister has shared a great deal of her issues with me, and, though I'm not her and can't personally explain her experiences, I have been around for a number of incidences that have appeared quite troubling.
My sister has been divorced for quite some time now, and she's always been very caring and supportive of her son. She has never been a spanker, but tries to deal with things logically and out in the open because she's had training dealing with special needs children (being a teacher). Her son has been somewhat behaved over the years, but I've observed a rather strong tendency towards lying (which I know is only natural, having been a child before and lied)... I'm not sure if some of the issues are because of the divorce happening so early in his childhood (around 4 or 5 I think?).. I've heard claims that divorced parents and children can eventually almost be like a married couple, which I believe it's almost become.
As far as my nephew.... He is 12 years old..
My nephew has been extremely clingy, spending more time with my sister at social gatherings than any of the other children who might be there. He seems obsessed with who might happen to be texting her and why, blaming her if other people text her without her first sending a text ("I Thought you weren't going to text tonight!", even if she didn't text them first). He gets really bent out of shape (though somewhat understandably) if she has a single cocktail on the weekend (and she isn't a drunk or habitual drinker). He appears to be constantly critical, even sarcastically and tends to have a bit of an attitude a lot of the time. Moreso than one would expect even though this is a growth phase where he's expected to be questioning and feel that he "knows everything".. He's extremely disrespectful and has been having some problems at school, and also has been lying about some of the things going on at school (such as his attitude, or having homework completed). He doesn't seem to pay attention or really care what people are saying sometimes.. And it's been very problematic.
Has anyone else experienced a situation like this? It's been very worrying for all of us, and it's really hard to tell if he's sincerely troubled or if he's intentionally being difficult so as to get attention or distract us from things that really matter like his lies about school (even though academically his grades and testing have been very good).
Any input would be great, and I know it's hard to judge without direct observation...
I'm posting this on the behalf of my sister (without her knowing), and would like to know if there are any other struggling parents out there with this type of issue.
My sister has shared a great deal of her issues with me, and, though I'm not her and can't personally explain her experiences, I have been around for a number of incidences that have appeared quite troubling.
My sister has been divorced for quite some time now, and she's always been very caring and supportive of her son. She has never been a spanker, but tries to deal with things logically and out in the open because she's had training dealing with special needs children (being a teacher). Her son has been somewhat behaved over the years, but I've observed a rather strong tendency towards lying (which I know is only natural, having been a child before and lied)... I'm not sure if some of the issues are because of the divorce happening so early in his childhood (around 4 or 5 I think?).. I've heard claims that divorced parents and children can eventually almost be like a married couple, which I believe it's almost become.
As far as my nephew.... He is 12 years old..
My nephew has been extremely clingy, spending more time with my sister at social gatherings than any of the other children who might be there. He seems obsessed with who might happen to be texting her and why, blaming her if other people text her without her first sending a text ("I Thought you weren't going to text tonight!", even if she didn't text them first). He gets really bent out of shape (though somewhat understandably) if she has a single cocktail on the weekend (and she isn't a drunk or habitual drinker). He appears to be constantly critical, even sarcastically and tends to have a bit of an attitude a lot of the time. Moreso than one would expect even though this is a growth phase where he's expected to be questioning and feel that he "knows everything".. He's extremely disrespectful and has been having some problems at school, and also has been lying about some of the things going on at school (such as his attitude, or having homework completed). He doesn't seem to pay attention or really care what people are saying sometimes.. And it's been very problematic.
Has anyone else experienced a situation like this? It's been very worrying for all of us, and it's really hard to tell if he's sincerely troubled or if he's intentionally being difficult so as to get attention or distract us from things that really matter like his lies about school (even though academically his grades and testing have been very good).
Any input would be great, and I know it's hard to judge without direct observation...