Allan-Matlem
Active Member
Hi,
One of the problems with ' reward and punishment is the focus is what happens to me , what's in it for me , what will I get or what will be done to me , rather than reflecting on the type of person you are trying to be , the values you are trying to express. Preparing a kid for the world in my humble opinion requires enabling him to aquire values that will help him become caring , competent and responsible and the life skills that will enable him to work and collaborate with others.
Here is a quote from Immanuel Kant, Education
If you punish a child for being naughty, and reward him for being good, he will do right merely for the sake of the reward ; and when he goes out into the world and he finds out that goodness is not always rewarded , nor wickedness always punished , he will grow into a man who only thinks about how will get on in the world and does right and wrong according as he finds either of advantage to himself.
One of the problems with ' reward and punishment is the focus is what happens to me , what's in it for me , what will I get or what will be done to me , rather than reflecting on the type of person you are trying to be , the values you are trying to express. Preparing a kid for the world in my humble opinion requires enabling him to aquire values that will help him become caring , competent and responsible and the life skills that will enable him to work and collaborate with others.
Here is a quote from Immanuel Kant, Education
If you punish a child for being naughty, and reward him for being good, he will do right merely for the sake of the reward ; and when he goes out into the world and he finds out that goodness is not always rewarded , nor wickedness always punished , he will grow into a man who only thinks about how will get on in the world and does right and wrong according as he finds either of advantage to himself.