****UPDATE***** I WAS WORRIED OVER NOTHING, when will I learn? difficult child went back to his city apt on Sunday night with a container of leftovers. No big deal. Didn't take the car he has been using. No big deal. He didn't show up for his appointment to have the tires replaced on the car on Monday. Didn't show up for dinner last night. Again no big deal. Has been unreachable, probably no big deal... but all these things combined are starting to worry me. And - his phone hasn't been used since Sunday. He left his wallet at home. (found it in his pants pocket this morning) I thought about trying to contact his roommate on FB and saw the roommate moved to Colorado on Sunday. (unless it was a joking post, maybe?) 3 overdraft notices arrived in the mail yesterday... I am surmising that he doesn't have the money to replace the tires...H told him no driving the car until the tires are replaced. The lack of phone use is scaring me... and the calls don't go straight to VM - so I am assuming the phone is on and charged somewhere? (iphone 4) Wallet has no money has a visa and debit card which I assume are useless if he is overdrawn. But also has his student ID and Driver's license... I have a really sick feeling in my stomach. It doesn't help that I took a shopping "bus trip" with a group of area women - many of whom have kids in the same age range, but not really any women I knew well. I heard some gossip about "Sam Tracy" and Sam's roommate running a bustling pot business out of their student apartment at BIG TEN university 2 states over. And that another friend of Sam's has openly confirmed it - stating that he was able to pay off his student loans thanks to this side business. Those boys are all graduated now and in great jobs and I assume the pot business has been passed on to the next set of local kids going to that school. It was idle gossip, Mom's were talking about how this is a known hometown network that the kids take to their various schools and then gets passed along to the next group of kids or expanded to other schools. Apparently, Sam Tracy was especially adept and successful at it. It was kind of a "can you believe it?" type gossip and I guess everyone figures they all escaped unharmed since they graduated successfully and are now "grown up." Sam Tracy worked with difficult child for his 4 summers landscaping. It was mostly just the two of them - and they were side by side for 12 hours a day and carpooled every day. Of course difficult child went to a different college. Let's just say this gossip has filled in a lot of blanks...I am very surprised to hear it was Sam though...but in retrospect it makes a lot of sense. I facebook surfed through their friends list and a few lightbulbs went off... ugh. Almost like a twisted family tree. In the meantime, husband has called difficult child's coworker who said he'd make a few inquiries; he "thought" difficult child was at his apartment but he will get in touch with difficult child's other roommates (I didn't know there were other roommates) and make sure... I am sure difficult child will be FURIOUS with H but right now that is my best case scenario. If he shows up, the "don't ask don't tell" is kaput. I want to see grades and attendance records for school. My imagination is running wild right now - I have so much work to do and I can't concentrate. I have this awful feeling and an awful taste in my mouth. I keep trying to remember Nancy in my shoes (last year) and that her difficult child was only out of town... I am posting only because I need to put this somewhere and I know you guys understand. I know I am letting my imagination get the best of me, but I went from annoyed that he didn't call, to mad that he blew off the appointment to SCARED when i found his wallet and checked his phone recs.