PatriotsGirl
Well-Known Member
I really, really don't want the board curse...
Things here have been beautiful. We have had the daughter here that we always wanted. Yes, I know it hasn't even been a week, but wow. I am in sheer mommy heaven. She has been an awesome mom AND daughter. Even though we have a full house here, the negative energy is gone. There is no walking on egg shells. We all talk to each other like adults. But she has not done anything to get on our nerves! LOL! She picks up after herself, she cooked dinner the other night, she is courteous and helpful. It is truly, truly amazing. I don't know if it was the almost six months in jail, Connor arriving, or a combination of both, but she is a completely different person. Even husband interacts with her so differently and he is happy they are here, too. <3 I cannot believe I am saying this, but I don't want them to leave. I know she HAS to - she is doing so well, but she will do even better having the tools and support she needs to stay that way. But my goodness, I am going to miss both of them SO much.
She has not even expressed a desire to contact anyone in the outside world. She is a non-smoker now!! And she dotes on that little boy. But grammy is here to teach, support and hijack the baby for snuggle time!!
I am just so happy. I honestly don't see the person she was on drugs - at all. I took her to the doctor yesterday and she is going back on anti-depressants, too. At this moment in time, I just can't see her going back to that life. And she doesn't have to. I swear, I am all for letting her and the baby live here after rehab if she would. BUT, she still has hope that presumed baby daddy will go to rehab, too, and then they can be a family. At least she is adamant that he go to treatment, too. I just think at age 35 or 36 what ever he is now, that he is not going to changeand I don't think the two of them together would be good. I really wish he would just exit the picture, or that we would find out the baby is not his. I did a reverse look up for the conception date after she delivered. The latest possible day that she conceived was 12/12 - M got out on that day but that is also the day that she was with both M's. So I told her, she really cannot tell who the father is until testing no matter how badly she wants it to be the original M's.
I know his trial date was last Monday. I looked up the case and it said a guilty plea was entered. He was transferred back and is still locked up in the county jail where difficult child was. I wish I could find out what the sentencing was...hopefully he will be in jail for a LONG while more...
No matter what ends up happening, I will NEVER regret bringing her home. It is, by far, the best decision I could have made. This past week has been everything I had always dreamed of...even if it is temporary...but gosh, we are all really hoping it is not!
Things here have been beautiful. We have had the daughter here that we always wanted. Yes, I know it hasn't even been a week, but wow. I am in sheer mommy heaven. She has been an awesome mom AND daughter. Even though we have a full house here, the negative energy is gone. There is no walking on egg shells. We all talk to each other like adults. But she has not done anything to get on our nerves! LOL! She picks up after herself, she cooked dinner the other night, she is courteous and helpful. It is truly, truly amazing. I don't know if it was the almost six months in jail, Connor arriving, or a combination of both, but she is a completely different person. Even husband interacts with her so differently and he is happy they are here, too. <3 I cannot believe I am saying this, but I don't want them to leave. I know she HAS to - she is doing so well, but she will do even better having the tools and support she needs to stay that way. But my goodness, I am going to miss both of them SO much.
She has not even expressed a desire to contact anyone in the outside world. She is a non-smoker now!! And she dotes on that little boy. But grammy is here to teach, support and hijack the baby for snuggle time!!
I am just so happy. I honestly don't see the person she was on drugs - at all. I took her to the doctor yesterday and she is going back on anti-depressants, too. At this moment in time, I just can't see her going back to that life. And she doesn't have to. I swear, I am all for letting her and the baby live here after rehab if she would. BUT, she still has hope that presumed baby daddy will go to rehab, too, and then they can be a family. At least she is adamant that he go to treatment, too. I just think at age 35 or 36 what ever he is now, that he is not going to changeand I don't think the two of them together would be good. I really wish he would just exit the picture, or that we would find out the baby is not his. I did a reverse look up for the conception date after she delivered. The latest possible day that she conceived was 12/12 - M got out on that day but that is also the day that she was with both M's. So I told her, she really cannot tell who the father is until testing no matter how badly she wants it to be the original M's.
I know his trial date was last Monday. I looked up the case and it said a guilty plea was entered. He was transferred back and is still locked up in the county jail where difficult child was. I wish I could find out what the sentencing was...hopefully he will be in jail for a LONG while more...
No matter what ends up happening, I will NEVER regret bringing her home. It is, by far, the best decision I could have made. This past week has been everything I had always dreamed of...even if it is temporary...but gosh, we are all really hoping it is not!