What did you see that let you know your child or adult child just was/is not attached to you? I'm trying to look back at the signs for my son that has decided we are not a part of his life. He came at age six and spent his first six years in an orphanage and NEVER acted out AT ALL. In fact, he was ultra-good. But he also didn't want me to help him tie his shoes, wouldn't hug, and spent much of his teen years at other people's homes. My therapist believes he had Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) anyway. Just looking for your experiences about this sad disorder. If your child is an adult, do you see that child?