Actually, it started last night! difficult child wanted easy child to play with him and easy child didn't want to. They start bickering about it, which is normal for kids. difficult child gets annoyed with easy child because easy child bickers back. In difficult child world, everyone just takes difficult child's crap and shuts their mouths while difficult child is verbally abusive. He's having a tough time learning that the real world is a different story. So the bickering escalates with difficult child threatening to hit easy child, which I hear and go upstairs to put a stop to. difficult child goes nuts! He thinks that I should not intervene and just let him beat the he!! out of his brother (who is 5 years younger). I told him that I would intervene no matter who threatened who. IF easy child said he was going to hit difficult child I would step in as well. That started this tirade about how if I were a better mother I would just let them fight it out and the fact that I don't just proves that I love easy child and not difficult child. He calms down and the rest of the night goes by without any problems. This morning I'm trying to get easy child up earlier than usual because difficult child made the honor roll and they were having the honor roll assembly this morning. All of the parents get to come and hear their child's name announced and the kid gets to walk across the stage to get a reward. A pin, or a tee shirt, or a medal. Something showing that they are an honor roll student. So, I'm trying to get easy child moving and difficult child walks into his room and says, "He's won't get up because he's fat and lazy!" easy child bickers back, "No, I'm not!" That starts the whole "no I'm not, yes you are" cycle, which, of course ends with difficult child threatening easy child again. "Do I have to beat the sh!t out of you? HUH?!" Again, I step in and separate them, which sends difficult child into a tailspin. He tells me to foget about going to the honor roll thing. He doesn't want me there because I don't really care about him.. I go call my in-laws, who were going to come to the assembly with me, and tell her that he doesn't want me to go. I get off the phone with mother in law and go to do some things that I needed to get done this morning when difficult child chases me down and starts screaming that he does want me to go and I needed to call mother in law RIGHT NOW and tell her that I'm going. I told him that I would gladly call her as soon as I was finished with what I was doing, which would only take me a few minutes. Not good enough. I needed to stop what I was doing because he told me to and call her NOW! Again, I said that I would call her when I was done and the more he bothered me the longer it was going to take because I have to keep stopping and talking to him. So he tells me to forget the whole thing and he doesn't want me there after all. I go back upstairs and I'm folding laundry. He asks why I haven't called mother in law. I told him because you told me again that you don't want me to go, so there is no reason to call her. I was supposed to call her and tell her that now he wanted me to go, but he changed his mind, so there is nothing new to tell her. Then he starts ranting about he doesn't want father in law or her to go now and I have to call and tell her that RIGHT NOW!! I said if he felt that way he could call her and tell her not to come. Otherwise, since I started folding laundry he was going to have to wait until I was ready to call her. Then he tells me that he really does want me to go, but I can only go if I apologize to him. Why do I need to apologize to him? Because I'm "a neglectful mother" who doesn't do exactly what he wants me to do exactly when he wants me to do it, and I intervene when he and easy child fight and any "normal" mother would just let them beat each other up and I have to learn to leave him alone when it comes to easy child. If I say I'm sorry he'll let me come to the assembly. I said I did nothing wrong and I had nothing to apologize for. He walked out the door this morning and the last thing he said was, "You had better no be anywhere near that school today." Like I would want to go now? He's been ramped up all week. He always gets this way right before Christmas. mother in law said to me later, "Now I see why you don't want to go out for dinner on Christmas Eve."