Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Hi all.
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I have been buried this past week, so I didn't post many details, but I did mention that yet another of difficult child's aids mocked him. After the weekends' incidents, it is really weighing on me. This makes the one teacher and 2 aids THAT I'VE CAUGHT. Now I'm questioning how many more do it?
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Last week, Wednesday, I beleive, I was called to school urgently to pick up difficult child. I still don't know what happened to set it off; he was obviously doing something he shouldn't, but it had escalated to him throwing chairs again. When I got there, they had just restricted him to a corner of the room and were letting him be. He was still holding a chair, sliding it on the floor and repeatedly slamming it into the wall and screaming. I found out later that what escalated it was when he first started to lose in, an aid pointed him out to the class and said "look at difficult child. Doesn't he look cute?" There was no bringing him back after that.
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Saturday, the school had a float in the parade, and difficult child wanted to be a part, so we went. He was absolutely fine until that teacher showed up, and then he fell apart. Anxiety all the way. When I asked him what was wrong, thru his tears, he clearly said "I just can't do it! I just can't be good when SHE's (touching that teacher's leg) here!" Yet another aid (one we haven't had a trouble with, that I'm aware of) sharply said "She doesn't have anything to do with it!" in defense of the teacher. The teacher motioned for her to let it go, and the aid said "But it just makes me mad that he blames you."
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I heard it, but I was paying attention to difficult child. I took him off the float for a while and calmed him down, then promised to stay close if he wanted to ride, which he did. I stayed closed and another teacher's older daughter jumped on and he buddied up with her and had a good time.
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Later that night, we went to the small local mom and pop restaraunt for supper. They know us well and allow for difficult child's "issues", so its not stressful for him. Or at least never has been. While waiting for dinner, difficult child was coloring with a basket of crayons the restaraunt keeps. I don't recall what we asked him to do, but it set him off and he got beligerant again. We were trying to calm him back down when he rose up on his knees in the chair, slammed the backet of crayons down, and yelled "AM I SO CUTE?? HUH? HUH?? AM I JUST CUTE NOW??!!?!!" And then he hid himself under the table and cried.
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I really thougth we were getting on top of this problem, but I guess I beleive now that the staff has been poisoned by that one teacher. I beleive there is probably no chance of salvaging this environment now, and it breaks my heart, because there are some people there who work really, really well with difficult child. Even the one teacher that he has struck steps up to the plate with him.
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Just makes my heart heavy to know how much difficult child is taking these comments to heart; what I thought were a couple of isolated incidents seem to be more and more the norm. I have one last ditch effort in mind (I'm going to tell them this story), but I am contacting our public school to request the IEP meeting.
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I have been buried this past week, so I didn't post many details, but I did mention that yet another of difficult child's aids mocked him. After the weekends' incidents, it is really weighing on me. This makes the one teacher and 2 aids THAT I'VE CAUGHT. Now I'm questioning how many more do it?
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Last week, Wednesday, I beleive, I was called to school urgently to pick up difficult child. I still don't know what happened to set it off; he was obviously doing something he shouldn't, but it had escalated to him throwing chairs again. When I got there, they had just restricted him to a corner of the room and were letting him be. He was still holding a chair, sliding it on the floor and repeatedly slamming it into the wall and screaming. I found out later that what escalated it was when he first started to lose in, an aid pointed him out to the class and said "look at difficult child. Doesn't he look cute?" There was no bringing him back after that.
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Saturday, the school had a float in the parade, and difficult child wanted to be a part, so we went. He was absolutely fine until that teacher showed up, and then he fell apart. Anxiety all the way. When I asked him what was wrong, thru his tears, he clearly said "I just can't do it! I just can't be good when SHE's (touching that teacher's leg) here!" Yet another aid (one we haven't had a trouble with, that I'm aware of) sharply said "She doesn't have anything to do with it!" in defense of the teacher. The teacher motioned for her to let it go, and the aid said "But it just makes me mad that he blames you."
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I heard it, but I was paying attention to difficult child. I took him off the float for a while and calmed him down, then promised to stay close if he wanted to ride, which he did. I stayed closed and another teacher's older daughter jumped on and he buddied up with her and had a good time.
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Later that night, we went to the small local mom and pop restaraunt for supper. They know us well and allow for difficult child's "issues", so its not stressful for him. Or at least never has been. While waiting for dinner, difficult child was coloring with a basket of crayons the restaraunt keeps. I don't recall what we asked him to do, but it set him off and he got beligerant again. We were trying to calm him back down when he rose up on his knees in the chair, slammed the backet of crayons down, and yelled "AM I SO CUTE?? HUH? HUH?? AM I JUST CUTE NOW??!!?!!" And then he hid himself under the table and cried.
***
I really thougth we were getting on top of this problem, but I guess I beleive now that the staff has been poisoned by that one teacher. I beleive there is probably no chance of salvaging this environment now, and it breaks my heart, because there are some people there who work really, really well with difficult child. Even the one teacher that he has struck steps up to the plate with him.
***
Just makes my heart heavy to know how much difficult child is taking these comments to heart; what I thought were a couple of isolated incidents seem to be more and more the norm. I have one last ditch effort in mind (I'm going to tell them this story), but I am contacting our public school to request the IEP meeting.