difficult child 1 is behind in 4 of his classes due to a variety of reasons. He's had plenty of time to catch up on the work. Last week, I reminded him of the different times during the day when he could work on this stuff. This weekend I did the same. He chose, instead, to not do the work. So last night husband said he was going to make him sit out his lacrosse game today. I followed through and emailed the coach to let him know. difficult child 1 goes ballistic when he finds this out, and husband... husband looks at me in shock and acts like he can't believe I actually followed through! Then he proceeds to tell me what I've done wrong in handling this situation. This morning, difficult child 1 starts out okay, but then by the time we get to school he's ticked again because of this consequence and is arguing about it the whole way to school. Then he's kicking the car when he gets out and stomps off to class. Then I get a text that he hates me. I reply with his current grades and number of missing assignments and tell him to pick the lowest graded course and get the late work DONE. To which he replies with an F-bomb and calling me a female dog. Then he says if he can't play in the game today, he's quitting school (I'm laughing at this now). I told him to be sure to let the office know so they could update the truant officer. (His response is for me to go to hell). LOVE it. And ever the helpful parent/spouse, husband is acting like he's above all this and is not going to get involved with any help or support because he doesn't think I'm accepting his "advice" -- which is actually criticism, instead of a suggestion for how to proceed. I feel like running away and letting chips fall wherever they may. Oh, and I found difficult child 1 in the garage with another porn DVD two nights ago. He doesn't know I threw it out, but last night I caught him trying to sneak out in the garage again. And something else in the back of my mind -- we put difficult child 1 back on Elavil about two weeks ago, and I'm wondering if that's contributing to all this garbage.