Kanga suffers from Major Depression due to a very poor self-image. I'd love to help build up her view of herself but when I praise her for something she has done, she discounts it or gets mad claiming that I (or whoever else complimented her) am making fun or her. I get that part, that she doesn't see the good in her so she rejects the compliment. But she is intentionally doing things to get herself in trouble (trying to prove she is worthless????) - things I can't ignore (i.e. peeing on her bed, stealing food, taking food out of the fridge and leaving it on the counter in the middle of the night, spitting half-chewed food back on her plate, telling a 13 year old neighbor boy that it was okay to beat up her 8 year old brother, flunking reading class and then getting Ds this week so it is up to a D- (doesn't understand why I'm not happy that she is now 'passing') Now husband is mad because I won't help Kanga change her sheets because her friend will be her any minute (we're babysitting for a fellow church family -- they are one of the few that we can trust to take Kanga overnight for a bit of respite). Kanga can change her own sheets, especially since I bought her Depends to wear because she claims it happens when she is asleep and she refused to wear it because it 'doesn't work'. husband also thinks I shouldn't 'get her mad' when she has a game later that day because she might play bad. While I enjoy watching her play well also, a talented athlete with behavior issues and 'D's in school is not going to get to play in college!!! We HAVE to fix the attitude for her success in life - in and out of sports. Very frustrating morning!!!