I'm talking about my mother. I am getting soooo frustrated with her passive-aggressive, judgemental, opinionate ways. Sorry but I NEED to vent! I mentioned before that we got this dog a couple weeks ago. We'd have gotten one a few years ago but my mom is extremely allergic to dogs. She stopped coming to visit after the "situation" last June. She stops by maybe once a month or two but only to drop something off and then she leaves right away. Many times, we aren't even home and she will leave whatever it is on the table. So since she doesn't come over any more, we decided why can't we have one now. Anyway, difficult child 2 tried telling my mom and sister that we got a dog a couple days after we got her. Neither of them said anything so difficult child 2 dropped it, according to him. So yesterday, while we were gone, my mom and a few of her friends came over to help themselves to my rhubarb patch (don't get me started). She knew we were gong to be gone most of the day (lots of things going on). I was leaving for an evening meeting after dropping both boys at their activities when I met my mom a couple blocks away. I stopped and politely asked her where she was heading because she pretty much never comes to my neighborhood. She said she was heading my to my house to drop something off. I said "no one's there. I'll take it". She said "that's okay, I can just leave it on the table." I knew then and there that something was up. She reluctantly gave it to me. I happened to think, she had to have seen the dog tie-out in the yard and she was going to my house to see if we had a dog. Remember, I'm assuming she didn't hear difficult child 2 tell her two weeks ago. So on my way to my meeting I called my sister and told her "Mom's at it again" and I explained the whole scenario. I told her " Mom's going to keep finding reasons to come to my house to see if we have a dog and then she's going to act all surprised and accuse me of being secretive about it." Well today, my mom walks in our back door with something else she HAS to drop off (now remember she only comes once every month or two...closer to two). The dog lets out one bark and my mom goes "WHAT is that thing doing in here?" difficult child 1 grabbed the dog who had stood on her hind legs to say hi and pulled her away. Mom's on her phone saying "Oh my god, there's a big dog in here!" She gets off the phone and says "so what's with the dog?" I told her difficult child 2 told her about it. She said "well, I didn't here him. So in other words you own a dog. ANOTHER thing you've been hiding. I guess I won't be coming to visit anymore." and then leaves. difficult child 1 looks at me and says to me "We haven't been hiding anything and like she ever comes to visit anyway!" Later, when difficult child 2 came home, I told him about it and he said exactly the same thing difficult child 1 said earlier. Tomorrow is my mom's birthday and NONE of us wants to go to her house to give her her cards/gift. difficult child 2 said "you know that's all she's going to talk about and it'll be nothing but complaining and I don't want to listen to it." I just wish she'd leave is alone. I'm almost 50 years old and STILL can't do anything right and everything is about her. Grrrr Thanks for letting me vent. I REALLY needed to do it though!!!