Elsi
Well-Known Member
S called me this morning at 5:00 a.m. crying hysterically. This is the first time I've heard from her for a while, other than occasional texts telling me "everything's cool, call you soon!" Clearly, everything is not "cool"...she's been living with a coke dealer (pimp?) and even C says it's been "out of control."
The dealer beat her up last night. I don't know how badly. She's 4'10" and probably down to about 90 pounds. She says she hit him first and "was being a real B" but now she's scared of him and doesn't know where to go. And she says she wants out of this life. She told me she's ready for rehab and wants to stop using.
I asked her if she would go to a hospital now and she said no she just wanted to sleep for a while where she is (I'm not sure where that is) and sober up first. I asked her to please text me the address where she was right now before she goes to sleep but she didn't. She promised to call me when she wakes up. We'll see.
So, on the off chance she's still serious later when she's sober and not scared to death...how do I help her? What's the best way to get her into a program? She has no money (obviously) and I don't have a ton to spare either - not anywhere near enough for a private program. I could help her out with monthly costs for a sober living facility for a short time later, but I can't afford to rob my retirement or pony up thousands of dollars in bulk for an inpatient program. My impression is that spots in programs are hard to come by around here.
N's program was prison based, and C and S have never expressed willingness to try a program before, so I don't really have experience with anything that isn't court mandated. Where do I start to get her connected to the right program? And what kind of support will she need from me?
I know this may not be the turning point I want it to be - it's entirely possible she'll disappear on me again, or change her mind about being willing to try something. But I want to be ready, just in case.
The dealer beat her up last night. I don't know how badly. She's 4'10" and probably down to about 90 pounds. She says she hit him first and "was being a real B" but now she's scared of him and doesn't know where to go. And she says she wants out of this life. She told me she's ready for rehab and wants to stop using.
I asked her if she would go to a hospital now and she said no she just wanted to sleep for a while where she is (I'm not sure where that is) and sober up first. I asked her to please text me the address where she was right now before she goes to sleep but she didn't. She promised to call me when she wakes up. We'll see.
So, on the off chance she's still serious later when she's sober and not scared to death...how do I help her? What's the best way to get her into a program? She has no money (obviously) and I don't have a ton to spare either - not anywhere near enough for a private program. I could help her out with monthly costs for a sober living facility for a short time later, but I can't afford to rob my retirement or pony up thousands of dollars in bulk for an inpatient program. My impression is that spots in programs are hard to come by around here.
N's program was prison based, and C and S have never expressed willingness to try a program before, so I don't really have experience with anything that isn't court mandated. Where do I start to get her connected to the right program? And what kind of support will she need from me?
I know this may not be the turning point I want it to be - it's entirely possible she'll disappear on me again, or change her mind about being willing to try something. But I want to be ready, just in case.