Help me think clearly here. difficult child is in a bad place right now and begging to come home. Basically she says she can follow any rules we have. She just wants to be with her siblings and family. If she could come here and follow the rules, I don't mind her being here and she certainly will have a better chance of turning things around. She's now saying that she can follow the rules and be respectful and do what we ask. Do I give her a chance knowing full well she probably won't keep to the rules? Pros- we live in the south and right now she is in a northern state, so if I do have to kick her out from my home, she'll at least be in a warmer climate if she should end up on streets. I'm happy to drive her to/from work if she can get a job and follow the rules in our home. She has a much better chance of survival if we let her come back. Cons- Given her history, it is doubtful she can do what we ask- even though really nothing we are asking is out of the ordinary for anyone her age. I have no idea how quickly I could legally kick her out if she causes trouble. Her old druggie friends are local to us, so if she came to stay and it didn't' work out, she'd have easier access to that crowd. The city in which we live is not nearly as big as where she is now, so there are more resources where she is now. Here, I'm not sure what help she could get if we had to make her leave our home. I told her we'll need a few days to think about it and that if we do say yes, it will not be right away. She only said "I understand" which shows me she's trying to be humble.