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ATaLOSS
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Just another example of how my 'ex in denial of difficult child's condition' and his attempts at trying to make me nonexistent in difficult child's life..... Sent this to him last night. And yes, I document every message I leave, every day that goes by with-no response, etc. CAN the courts order a 'phone schedule'? Anyone?
"At 7:25pm on a Tues evening, it is not unreasonable for me to call to talk to my son. I promised him last night I would call this evening. You answered and told me he is not with you. You said you would have him call me tomorrow. I asked where he was and you said he is "at home". I said surely there is someone with him that can have him call me. Your response of "I'll have him call you tomorrow, thank you!" before you hung up on me, is controlling and insensitive. It is NOT UP TO YOU to decide what days I can speak with (difficult child). I prefer to talk with him everyday - as most parents would. If I call at an inconvenient time and (difficult child) needs to call me later, that is no problem. But the fact that I have repeatedly called and left messages and sometimes by the third day I will get a return phone call is extremely unfair. I've ask (difficult child) on many occasions if you have told him I've called after a day or two of no return phone calls, and he says no. How can daily contact with his mother, or at least the knowledge that I have called, be denied of him?
(difficult child) has told me that you told him if I "want to talk to him so bad then I can buy him a cell phone". Age 7... a cell phone? I will buy my son a cell phone, when it is age appropriate, so we can talk freely when we want to, every day, and several times a day if we feel like it.
If it has to come down to a court battle for a judge to call out a "phone schedule" to allow me access to my son, then so be it. Otherwise I will continue to 'inconvenience' you because I will not give up being a daily part of his life - even if through a simple phone call."
"At 7:25pm on a Tues evening, it is not unreasonable for me to call to talk to my son. I promised him last night I would call this evening. You answered and told me he is not with you. You said you would have him call me tomorrow. I asked where he was and you said he is "at home". I said surely there is someone with him that can have him call me. Your response of "I'll have him call you tomorrow, thank you!" before you hung up on me, is controlling and insensitive. It is NOT UP TO YOU to decide what days I can speak with (difficult child). I prefer to talk with him everyday - as most parents would. If I call at an inconvenient time and (difficult child) needs to call me later, that is no problem. But the fact that I have repeatedly called and left messages and sometimes by the third day I will get a return phone call is extremely unfair. I've ask (difficult child) on many occasions if you have told him I've called after a day or two of no return phone calls, and he says no. How can daily contact with his mother, or at least the knowledge that I have called, be denied of him?
(difficult child) has told me that you told him if I "want to talk to him so bad then I can buy him a cell phone". Age 7... a cell phone? I will buy my son a cell phone, when it is age appropriate, so we can talk freely when we want to, every day, and several times a day if we feel like it.
If it has to come down to a court battle for a judge to call out a "phone schedule" to allow me access to my son, then so be it. Otherwise I will continue to 'inconvenience' you because I will not give up being a daily part of his life - even if through a simple phone call."