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difficult child 1 has taken off again (left the house in a huff) because he's overwhelmed and it's all MY fault (of course).
difficult child 2 has an ortho appointment tomorrow afternoon in a town an hour away from here. My dentist (in that same town) had a cancellation for tomorrow morning. I grabbed it since I have to be in that town anyway. Now, we just have to leave earlier.
Because of difficult child 2's appointment, i had arranged their school lessons so there wasn't a whole lot to do tomorrow. Since my appointment is in the morning, I wanted them to do some of the work today (not a hard day as it is) to relieve any pressure from having to do all of it tomorrow along with 2 appointments and drive time.
At first, difficult child 1 willingly started working on his Algebra. He watched the lesson instructional video and then did the problems (by himself because he REFUSED to let me even look at it). Then he wanted to check his answers to those in the back of the book. They were all wrong. I wanted to explain what he'd done wrong but that was it. He was done. He stood around for a good 20 minutes while I helped difficult child 2 with some of his work. He made comments and interrupted and tried to argue with me. He even tried to talk difficult child 2 into saving tomorrow's work for tomorrow and doing it with him. difficult child 2 doesn't want to have to worry about it tomorrow since he has time today.
After about 1/2 an hour, he grabbed his coat and was out the door before I had a chance to even turn around. He didn't even take his phone with him this time. difficult child 2 went out looking for him and wants to talk to him.
The deal is that I am torn. I KNOW he's overwhelmed with the "extra work" and with the change in plan. I DID listen to what he had to say. I also explained my reasoning and that it wasn't negotiable this time. There are going to be times when plans change and there is NOTHING he can do about it. He's getting better with that but .....
I refuse to call the police because with my luck that jerk cop that insisted difficult child 1 go to juvie instead of psychiatric hospital because of the "Prozac fiasco" will be on duty and I am just not willing to do that to difficult child 1 again. That cop was worse than a jerk and I'm not willing to take that chance. difficult child 2 just came back and said he couldn't find difficult child 1. I WILL start making phone calls though.
Does anyone else get frustrated with dealing with these "thinking errors" and, in my case, difficult child 1's flight response?
difficult child 2 has an ortho appointment tomorrow afternoon in a town an hour away from here. My dentist (in that same town) had a cancellation for tomorrow morning. I grabbed it since I have to be in that town anyway. Now, we just have to leave earlier.
Because of difficult child 2's appointment, i had arranged their school lessons so there wasn't a whole lot to do tomorrow. Since my appointment is in the morning, I wanted them to do some of the work today (not a hard day as it is) to relieve any pressure from having to do all of it tomorrow along with 2 appointments and drive time.
At first, difficult child 1 willingly started working on his Algebra. He watched the lesson instructional video and then did the problems (by himself because he REFUSED to let me even look at it). Then he wanted to check his answers to those in the back of the book. They were all wrong. I wanted to explain what he'd done wrong but that was it. He was done. He stood around for a good 20 minutes while I helped difficult child 2 with some of his work. He made comments and interrupted and tried to argue with me. He even tried to talk difficult child 2 into saving tomorrow's work for tomorrow and doing it with him. difficult child 2 doesn't want to have to worry about it tomorrow since he has time today.
After about 1/2 an hour, he grabbed his coat and was out the door before I had a chance to even turn around. He didn't even take his phone with him this time. difficult child 2 went out looking for him and wants to talk to him.
The deal is that I am torn. I KNOW he's overwhelmed with the "extra work" and with the change in plan. I DID listen to what he had to say. I also explained my reasoning and that it wasn't negotiable this time. There are going to be times when plans change and there is NOTHING he can do about it. He's getting better with that but .....
I refuse to call the police because with my luck that jerk cop that insisted difficult child 1 go to juvie instead of psychiatric hospital because of the "Prozac fiasco" will be on duty and I am just not willing to do that to difficult child 1 again. That cop was worse than a jerk and I'm not willing to take that chance. difficult child 2 just came back and said he couldn't find difficult child 1. I WILL start making phone calls though.
Does anyone else get frustrated with dealing with these "thinking errors" and, in my case, difficult child 1's flight response?