difficult child has taken three years to grow her bangs out... and while we were out of the house for an hour, she and a friend cut her hair so that she now has bangs. Not a biggie... didn't really say anything to her except that it looked nice. (didn't really think that, but I didn't want a melt down and hair grows back). This morning, on the way to school, I asked her in the future, could she think about things (like cutting hair) and maybe discuss it a little before she does it? I really wasn't being mean or rude or saying anything bad about her hair. I told her she could get her hair cut the way she likes, and that I could make an appointment with a hairdresser. OMG. She tried to turn it all around in to "that the only reason she cut it was to 'surprise' me". I tried to explain that she cut it because she and her friend wanted to... and then she surprised me with it. THere is no way to did it to surprise me. She doesn't do anything "for me". It is all what difficult child wants, difficult child has to have, and she has to have it right now.
Like I said, I don't really care about the hair, but in her mind, she has to twist everything around and that she did it for me! WHen it is just difficult child doing what she wants, because she can.
KSM
Like I said, I don't really care about the hair, but in her mind, she has to twist everything around and that she did it for me! WHen it is just difficult child doing what she wants, because she can.
KSM