Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Last night, I really didn't want to do the chores I needed to do. I'm sure you've all been there... I just had no motivation or desire to keep plugging along. In addition, I was in a lot of pain. I don't want to give in to the pain, 'cause frankly, that's gonna just be how it is.
And I just kept thinking of husband saying he doesn't change the oil in his car because he just doesn't want to do that anymore. Or <insert chore> he doesn't do 'cause he doesn't like to.
And dang-it, it made me MAD. He's been doing what he agreed to do, for the most part (doing dishes, to me, means you clean them, and you clean them all...to him, it means he runs what he can thru the dishwasher and if it gets clean, great, if not, oh well. If it doesn't fit, it sits...but I'm not picking that bone right now.) And he has occassionally done a tad extra, but we're still talking minor stuff in the scheme of things.
So...in the case of last night, I didn't want to pick a fight. But I wasn't sure what to do with that anger. Its valid and justified, and if I was dealing with any semblance of a normal person, I'd have pulled him over and just said it. But I didn't want to get another "you're right to be mad. Now leave me alone to do nothing." That would have made me even madder. Add to it I hurt, and I can't tell him that, either, cause his response just infuriates me....
So, you people who wear rose colored glasses...any tips, ideas, suggestions for handling my own anger at that point?
(or should I have just opened the flood gates and let him have it? lol)
And I just kept thinking of husband saying he doesn't change the oil in his car because he just doesn't want to do that anymore. Or <insert chore> he doesn't do 'cause he doesn't like to.
And dang-it, it made me MAD. He's been doing what he agreed to do, for the most part (doing dishes, to me, means you clean them, and you clean them all...to him, it means he runs what he can thru the dishwasher and if it gets clean, great, if not, oh well. If it doesn't fit, it sits...but I'm not picking that bone right now.) And he has occassionally done a tad extra, but we're still talking minor stuff in the scheme of things.
So...in the case of last night, I didn't want to pick a fight. But I wasn't sure what to do with that anger. Its valid and justified, and if I was dealing with any semblance of a normal person, I'd have pulled him over and just said it. But I didn't want to get another "you're right to be mad. Now leave me alone to do nothing." That would have made me even madder. Add to it I hurt, and I can't tell him that, either, cause his response just infuriates me....
So, you people who wear rose colored glasses...any tips, ideas, suggestions for handling my own anger at that point?
(or should I have just opened the flood gates and let him have it? lol)