toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Well my difficult child texted me because his cell phone charger is going... I talked to my friend out there who has not heard from difficult child but some of the other guys have. Apparently he has been spending some nights in the hospital with a girl who is very ill... leaving his stuff during the day and then hiding and sleeping in her room at night. For some reason I just find this kind of disgusting. I ended up texting my difficult child that if he needs help getting a charger he should contact the friend at the sober house that they are his best resources and I told him we loved him. I am trying to love him but keep my distance.
I just read a novel about a family where the son commits a terrible act and it mentions the murder gene.... so I googled "sociopath gene" and it talks about various pieces of research on the brain, and the parts of the brain that differ between normal people and psychopaths.
I have always felt that my son was wired in some way to be the way he is and I still think that is true. I hhave done what most of us have done and wracked my brain and heart for where I as a parent went wrong. I really dont think any of my mistakes would haave caused him to be the way he is.
So in a weird way it is a relief to know there is research out there showing some of this stuff is kind of in their brain and can not all be blamed on environment.
Apparantly my difficult child also found a way to spend a night in a hotel which just says to me he is scamming...darn it why cant he just decide to live a productive useful honorable life? It is hard having a kid who goes against all your values.
*TL - trying not to feel hopeless
Well my difficult child texted me because his cell phone charger is going... I talked to my friend out there who has not heard from difficult child but some of the other guys have. Apparently he has been spending some nights in the hospital with a girl who is very ill... leaving his stuff during the day and then hiding and sleeping in her room at night. For some reason I just find this kind of disgusting. I ended up texting my difficult child that if he needs help getting a charger he should contact the friend at the sober house that they are his best resources and I told him we loved him. I am trying to love him but keep my distance.
I just read a novel about a family where the son commits a terrible act and it mentions the murder gene.... so I googled "sociopath gene" and it talks about various pieces of research on the brain, and the parts of the brain that differ between normal people and psychopaths.
I have always felt that my son was wired in some way to be the way he is and I still think that is true. I hhave done what most of us have done and wracked my brain and heart for where I as a parent went wrong. I really dont think any of my mistakes would haave caused him to be the way he is.
So in a weird way it is a relief to know there is research out there showing some of this stuff is kind of in their brain and can not all be blamed on environment.
Apparantly my difficult child also found a way to spend a night in a hotel which just says to me he is scamming...darn it why cant he just decide to live a productive useful honorable life? It is hard having a kid who goes against all your values.
*TL - trying not to feel hopeless