keista
New Member
Grown up decisions, grown up responsibilities, grown up actions. UHG Can't I ignore it all and become an ostrich???????
My Dad is back in FL and we're planning on going for a visit this Saturday. The problem is his neighbor. The man is a very kind gentle man and has been a friend of the family for as long as I can remember. However, in the last 9 months or so, he has said/done things that are raising red flags and causing concern.
Does any of this send up flags for anyone else?
The grown up part that I'm dreading is that I have to call this guy and tell him I don't want him hanging around when I go visit. That part I can actually deal with, but I already know he will protest, and THAT is what I am truly dreading, and then the fear that he won't respect my wishes. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
My Dad is back in FL and we're planning on going for a visit this Saturday. The problem is his neighbor. The man is a very kind gentle man and has been a friend of the family for as long as I can remember. However, in the last 9 months or so, he has said/done things that are raising red flags and causing concern.
- He never goes swimming in the pool unless I'm visiting with the kids. Then he's in the pool playing with my kids (mostly the girls)
- Back in January he gave the kids some small token gifts (stuff he finds really cheap or has lying around) Son got a snorkeling set, DD2 got a very cool promotional mouse which is also a water globe, DD1 got a piece of family heirloom jewelry - no real monetary value to it.
- DD1 absolutely adores this man, and I've had two long phone conversations with him regarding her. During these calls I learned that this "issues" that he has that I was aware of have their own "issues". He was horribly abused as a child and has spent most of his adult life seeking "peace" to his past - he hasn't found it yet. He feels a "connection" to DD1 and wants to "help" her feel at peace.
- The last call, he expressed concern that DD1 might get emotionally "addicted" to him, but also asked if me if it were appropriate for him to give her long hugs goodbye.
- Before my Dad left FL at the beginning of summer, he went over to download pics of my girls.
Does any of this send up flags for anyone else?
The grown up part that I'm dreading is that I have to call this guy and tell him I don't want him hanging around when I go visit. That part I can actually deal with, but I already know he will protest, and THAT is what I am truly dreading, and then the fear that he won't respect my wishes. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR