PiscesMom
Active Member
hi. I have posted here before and i am so grateful to all the advice and encouragement. I guess I need more.
My son was released from the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in September. They were very clear that he was to go with me, and not his dad. But he would see his dad on weekends. My son is almost 18. He has autistic traits, oppositional defiance, alexithymia, and is obsessed with marijuana.
His dad lives in a very wealthy town, I am nearby in a not so wealthy town. So my son casually met some other young men, and asked if they wanted to buy weed. He met them, asked to see their money and one of them hinted he had a gun, but my son didn't see it. My son managed to get away, but his cell phone was stolen - it had been collateral, as my son pretended to go get the weed, as he ran away.
OK - ran back to my house. Where he lives. He lost them shortly before he got home, but they followed him to the entrance of our neighborhood. That night I drove him to his dad's. We both thought he should go away at least for the night.
Before though, when he arrived at home, he was terrified, got in the house, locked the doors, breathing very hard, then threw up. But by the time we started driving to his dad's - maybe a half hour later, he wasn't scared. He said he "felt like he didn't have a phone." So, the alexithymia. He was scared, but now can't access the fear. So what is to prevent more of this?
Meanwhile, I am honestly scared to have him back. I don't know what to do.
My son was released from the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in September. They were very clear that he was to go with me, and not his dad. But he would see his dad on weekends. My son is almost 18. He has autistic traits, oppositional defiance, alexithymia, and is obsessed with marijuana.
His dad lives in a very wealthy town, I am nearby in a not so wealthy town. So my son casually met some other young men, and asked if they wanted to buy weed. He met them, asked to see their money and one of them hinted he had a gun, but my son didn't see it. My son managed to get away, but his cell phone was stolen - it had been collateral, as my son pretended to go get the weed, as he ran away.
OK - ran back to my house. Where he lives. He lost them shortly before he got home, but they followed him to the entrance of our neighborhood. That night I drove him to his dad's. We both thought he should go away at least for the night.
Before though, when he arrived at home, he was terrified, got in the house, locked the doors, breathing very hard, then threw up. But by the time we started driving to his dad's - maybe a half hour later, he wasn't scared. He said he "felt like he didn't have a phone." So, the alexithymia. He was scared, but now can't access the fear. So what is to prevent more of this?
Meanwhile, I am honestly scared to have him back. I don't know what to do.