Ok in writing my answer to "how did the meeting go?" I think I sorted thru some of my feelings and maybe what is bothering me the most: 1. that same old "hitting my head against the wall" feeling 2. it really did upset me that the psychologist described that what worked for him once was grabbing difficult child's arm and refusing to let go until he complied. He is supposed to be a role model to the staff. I knew I didn't really like him last year when he shoved difficult child into a chair (hard, right in front of me). There were all those people, admin, sp. ed coordinator, Speech Language Pathologist (SLP), DAPE, two student support team (behavior) folks, Psychologist (my Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) guy), sp. ed teacher...and I was the one who had to say that was a bad bad bad idea. Seriously? Do they think they should do anything. I am going to call sp. ed coordinator and my psychiatric tomorrow. I wonder if that is a cps reportable thing. HE didn't hurt him but it was not an imminent danger situation. He just runs to the bus. He may even kick the door open. I am not proud of that, and we have to work on it but really???? he doesn't get that triggering fight or flight wont help. And it will make him get in the aggressive mode for a long long time after. Makes me sick.