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Liahona
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I can see why Chris won't want you to discipline. He is probably scared of you getting hurt. I can also see how their relationship isn't going to improve while Chris steps in to help you.
This hits home to me. husband and difficult child 1 got along ok until difficult child 1 started raging. difficult child 1 has tried to kill his siblings, he would hit men (husband) where it would hurt the most, throw chairs across the room bigger than he was (he was 4 years old). At the same time difficult child 1 rejected any love from husband. He went from a happy liitle boy who would follow husband around and copy him to a screaming raging destructive boy who wouldn't let husband even pat him on the head let alone hug him. husband would not take the advice of the therapists and back off. The therapists tried to get husband to do fun things with difficult child 1, but husband wouldn't. He felt like I was to soft on him, that difficult child 1 was "running over the top" of me, that difficult child 1 was dangerous, plus difficult child 1 reminded husband of kids that would torment him while husband was little. husband no longer likes or loves difficult child 1. I am considering divorcing husband (there are other issues as well, but this is a big one), I try to keep them apart and can do it mostly. I don't trust husband to parent difficult child 1 in the manner difficult child 1 needs. If anyone had told me this would be the case when the rages started I would've said they were nuts. I would never have married husband if I didn't feel he would love difficult child 1 it is a situation that has slowly developed over 7 years. The kicker is now difficult child 1 is acting much better but husband won't see it. He won't forgive the years of gfgness. How you two handle this situation might be different than others would. Your difficult child is bigger than you. You need to address Chris' fear about your safety. You also need to address the relationship issue between Chris and difficult child.
I got my difficult child 1 in to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because we are very poor and can use Medcaid. When he left for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) he wasn't as aggressive as your difficult child. Chris' other post said you were having money troubles. Is this route into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) something you could look into? Or is this still not an option because of ex-mother in law?
This hits home to me. husband and difficult child 1 got along ok until difficult child 1 started raging. difficult child 1 has tried to kill his siblings, he would hit men (husband) where it would hurt the most, throw chairs across the room bigger than he was (he was 4 years old). At the same time difficult child 1 rejected any love from husband. He went from a happy liitle boy who would follow husband around and copy him to a screaming raging destructive boy who wouldn't let husband even pat him on the head let alone hug him. husband would not take the advice of the therapists and back off. The therapists tried to get husband to do fun things with difficult child 1, but husband wouldn't. He felt like I was to soft on him, that difficult child 1 was "running over the top" of me, that difficult child 1 was dangerous, plus difficult child 1 reminded husband of kids that would torment him while husband was little. husband no longer likes or loves difficult child 1. I am considering divorcing husband (there are other issues as well, but this is a big one), I try to keep them apart and can do it mostly. I don't trust husband to parent difficult child 1 in the manner difficult child 1 needs. If anyone had told me this would be the case when the rages started I would've said they were nuts. I would never have married husband if I didn't feel he would love difficult child 1 it is a situation that has slowly developed over 7 years. The kicker is now difficult child 1 is acting much better but husband won't see it. He won't forgive the years of gfgness. How you two handle this situation might be different than others would. Your difficult child is bigger than you. You need to address Chris' fear about your safety. You also need to address the relationship issue between Chris and difficult child.
I got my difficult child 1 in to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because we are very poor and can use Medcaid. When he left for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) he wasn't as aggressive as your difficult child. Chris' other post said you were having money troubles. Is this route into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) something you could look into? Or is this still not an option because of ex-mother in law?
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