Our 15 year old son has gone through two years of bullying by a peer in his private school. As things got worse, we begged him to let us go in to the school and report the abuse, but he swore that if we did it would get worse. He was right! We have now come to have very strong feelings that this bully is a sociopath. We have always felt confident he had a few social issues and did not have any remorse or concience to behavior that I would describe as "evil". Just really cruel, mean stuff to my son and others.
We reported the abuse and the school spoke to the bully and told us he claims he is your son's best friend, and while he does not deby doing any of the things we accused him of, he has a different interpretation of the events (...whatever that means) and we were told that the matter is now closed.
We tried to get our son to leave the school, but it is a gifted and talented school, and he really feels he deserves to be there. The bully has now turned on revenge toward my son for reporting him, and he has begun to manipulate circumstances in school by getting others to ignore and isolate my son. He may as well have the Bubonic Plague, becasue the bully sure has everyone treating him that way! We can trace all forms of isolation back to the bully, but cannot find a way to document the bully as the culprit (which we have come to learn is classic sociopathic manipulation. He spread very bad rumors about my son, and told everyone his parents (me) tried to get the bully kicked out of school. Our son was right, and he is now worse off because we went in to report the abuse and the school did nothing, and while the bully knows he can't get caught again, he has changed his tactic and is manipulating the students to make life for my son miserable.
I feel like elevating this to the authorities (dyfus, our state government...anything), and will take any advice on that. But more importantly, we have come to realize the bully is in fact a sociopath, and the more we read and learn, the more we realize just how dangerous these sociopaths can be to their vitctims.
Can anyone please tell me how to get a sociopath off your child after they have bullied him and are continuing to ruin their life at school? Leaving the school is the obvious option, but the bully lives in town and will surely work to make our son's life miserable no matter what school he is in. How can we get a sociopath off our son's back?
Thanks,
JPAR
We reported the abuse and the school spoke to the bully and told us he claims he is your son's best friend, and while he does not deby doing any of the things we accused him of, he has a different interpretation of the events (...whatever that means) and we were told that the matter is now closed.
We tried to get our son to leave the school, but it is a gifted and talented school, and he really feels he deserves to be there. The bully has now turned on revenge toward my son for reporting him, and he has begun to manipulate circumstances in school by getting others to ignore and isolate my son. He may as well have the Bubonic Plague, becasue the bully sure has everyone treating him that way! We can trace all forms of isolation back to the bully, but cannot find a way to document the bully as the culprit (which we have come to learn is classic sociopathic manipulation. He spread very bad rumors about my son, and told everyone his parents (me) tried to get the bully kicked out of school. Our son was right, and he is now worse off because we went in to report the abuse and the school did nothing, and while the bully knows he can't get caught again, he has changed his tactic and is manipulating the students to make life for my son miserable.
I feel like elevating this to the authorities (dyfus, our state government...anything), and will take any advice on that. But more importantly, we have come to realize the bully is in fact a sociopath, and the more we read and learn, the more we realize just how dangerous these sociopaths can be to their vitctims.
Can anyone please tell me how to get a sociopath off your child after they have bullied him and are continuing to ruin their life at school? Leaving the school is the obvious option, but the bully lives in town and will surely work to make our son's life miserable no matter what school he is in. How can we get a sociopath off our son's back?
Thanks,
JPAR