Usually, I cook at my house for Christmas Eve. Last year things changed. I was cooking for Christmas Day and I said that I would not do both Eve and Day. mother in law said she would cook for Christmas Eve, but sister in law jumped in and suggested (more like insisted) that we go out for dinner instead. I was reluctant, because I know how difficult child can be, but I was the only one who saw a problem, so I shut my mouth and agreed to go. difficult child had a mini meltdown at the restaurant and I had to practically sit on him to prevent him from running out screaming profanity all along the way. After he got his food he was fine, but until then I really thought it was going to be a disaster. This year I had a heart to heart with mother in law/father in law and told her that going out was way to stressful for me to deal with. I can't trust difficult child and his behavior. mother in law said that she would cook for Christmas Eve to make things easier for me. Then today I get a text from sister in law suggesting that we go out for Christmas Eve again. I told her that mother in law had mentioned to me about cooking, but that I would speak to mother in law when they get back (they are visiting husband's other brother and are due home sometime today). sister in law says to me, "Well, I talked to them about this last week and they mentioned nothing about staying home to me, so I don't know why they would say that to you." She insists that going out it "so relaxing" for everyone and she can't understand why I don't want to go. I told her that what is relaxing to one person is another person's nightmare. That my son had a meltdown at the table and I was not going to put myself through that again. She has no idea what I go through on a daily basis to parent this kid. I didn't want to go last year, but I was trying to make everyone happy, so I did what was against my better judgment and I was not going to do it again. I did what everyone else wanted for all of the holidays last year and this year it was my turn to get what I need. We'll see how it goes, but I REALLY do not want to go out.