I had my first mother-daughter session with Kanga since she has been home. The main focus of the talk was boys. (of course, Kanga got to pick). We touched very briefly on her adoption and her anger about it, but she quickly steered us back to boys. On the good side, she made eye contact twice! That is huge for her. She still can't talk and look at me at the same time, but she was able to make eye contact for a few seconds twice while the therapist was talking. She made a very interesting comment at one point. She said that she met a child at the hospital whose birthparents did their work and got him back at 13. She expressed wanting to meet her birthmother but being scared that her birthfather (violent, abusive) would show up. She was also worried that her birthmother would "smell and have pimples". She wouldn't let us follow up on those comments, so they'll have to be addressed next time. I can't tell if a magical return of birthmom is what she is hoping for or what she is scared of???? She had told one of the tdocs that she was glad I've stuck around as she was expecting me to give up on her long ago. So, overall a good session. It has renewed my energy to keep fighting for her! The littles and I are leaving about noon for my mom's so I won't be poosting after noon until Monday morning (but I will be reading all of your posts) have a great weekend.