difficult child has his first appointment with the new therapist tonight. I'm making dinner when he comes into the kitchen ands says, " I do NOT want her to know what I did," referring to the night he picked up the knife a d threatened suicide. Because I'm trying to be honest with him I told him that I had spoken to her several times on the phone and that she knows about it.
Now, while he didn't have a complete screaming meme of a meltdown, which I suppose is progress, he got very angry and said that he wouldn't go see her. I had no right to tell her something "personal and private" about him. I told him that if he chose not to go, there was very little I could do about it, but then he could go to his room a d sit on his bed with no privileges. He finally relented and said he would go, but that the new therapist needed to know that "we" don't want to discuss it. I told him, "Not 'we'. You!"
And this is why, no matter who difficult child sees, he is only going to get so far. He refuses to acknowledge his behaviors and the choices that he makes. Does anyone else deal with this? What do you do about it?
Now, while he didn't have a complete screaming meme of a meltdown, which I suppose is progress, he got very angry and said that he wouldn't go see her. I had no right to tell her something "personal and private" about him. I told him that if he chose not to go, there was very little I could do about it, but then he could go to his room a d sit on his bed with no privileges. He finally relented and said he would go, but that the new therapist needed to know that "we" don't want to discuss it. I told him, "Not 'we'. You!"
And this is why, no matter who difficult child sees, he is only going to get so far. He refuses to acknowledge his behaviors and the choices that he makes. Does anyone else deal with this? What do you do about it?