so me again shocker ugh.... so husband and i are having a debate over something. we had planned to go away just him and i in july for our anniversary. we had problem with the weeks due to my mom not wanting to watch difficult child for us and my ex h only having certain time he can take. so the week to go away and the only week that's available for us is the week of my stepson's birthday he'll be 12. we dont' have him on his actual birthday his mom has him, we have him the day before and day after. now, maybe i am being selfish yet i said to husband this is absolutely the only time we're going to get away together alone. in july we take kids camping for 5 days, than he has work etc. so i said why can't we just go that week, since we dont' even have him on his actual birthday and simply do something really nice for him the wednesday before it? i thought give him a gift adn take him to this great arcade plus those car things kids drive ona track. memory is horrible. he said not even be in the country for it?? i said what's the big deal he's 12 its not like he's 5. we givehim a nice birthday, than we leave. we call him on the day. he said you'dl never do that with difficult child. i said if her dad had her i certainly would. husband thinks i'm being selfish. i'm like yea no not in my eyes i do for all the kids all the time. it's time to do for us. it' just happens to fall on a bad week. it's been a hard year, we wont' be able to escape for another 12 mos. so yea i'd def do it. thoughts?? ami wrong?? he wanted to think about asking stepson what he thought..??