As I discussed in my original post , my 31 year old narcissistic daughter has been a heroin addict and pill addict since age 16. She has lied to me and stolen money and things from me and other family members and some friends. She has been in and out of jail and prison about 12 times. She has been to 2 long term rehabs. Relapsed more times than I can count. Just got off parole early. My sister and I had custody of my 11 year old granddaughter. My sister is nasty and jealous of my granddaughter and I being close so she signed over custody of her to my daughter who is 6 months pregnant from her boyfriend of less than a year. The boyfriend that she falsely accused last year and had put in jail for beating her up when she really hit her head by nodding out. I have always been an enabler. And a doormat for my daughter to use and abuse in all ways. Even physically. She is a liar and manipulating person and a com artist. Well now she got my granddaughter back but abandoned her 5 year old with a different baby daddy. Yes she has three of them. She has decided since she conned me I May out of $1500 and told me she was moving with me to start a new life and we could be close blah blah, she has now filled my granddaughters head with lies and has kept me from seeing her and talking to her. My son gets to FaceTime her occasionally but we miss her. I have gotten to say hello to her a couple times but she doesn’t seem interested in her grandmother any more. It hurts badly after all I always did for my daughter. More than I should have. Bought cars and bailed her out of everything always. Last night I said hello to my granddaughter while my son was on FaceTime with her and she ignored me. I asked her why she’s not wanting to talk to me and then my daughter jumped on the phone. I thought she was at work or I wouldn’t have tried to talk to my granddaughter. She started yelling at me and I said you sent me an email telling me that my granddaughter blocked me on her own and doesn’t want to talk to me and of course she denied it but I said I have the email. I then hung up because my son (28) and my granddaughter were listening and I didn’t want them in that drama. Does my granddaughter stand a chance as her teen years approach being raised by my daughter who is mean and cruel and dishonest and my granddaughters father just died of an overdose in July. I want to protect her but she is 8 hours away and my daughter won’t let me in her life. It’s my punishment for stopping enabling my daughter and calling her out on all her bs. Do you think at age 11 my granddaughter knows she is hurting me and is just siding with my daughter to form a bond because it’s been 5 years since my daughter was in her life. . I keep praying for my granddaughter to be back with us but nothing is happening. In April my granddaughter said she didn’t want to live with my daughter because she was afraid she would relapse. Then my sister just put her with my daughter anyway to be mean to me out of jealousy. I don’t know what to do or how to feel other than hurt and helpless. Does anyone have an insight for me ? Thanks so much