I am new to this forum. My 15 year old difficult child was raped by a 24 year old. She did not tell us about it. About 7 months later, I found out and reported it to the police. The rape did something to her brain wiring and she has shoplifted, lied, done drugs, alcohol, sex, etc. The officer said in 15 years he has never seen someone go down hill so fast and we had 3 choices. We could have her go to jail, we could lock her in the basement 24/7, or we could turn her over to the state since we can't afford to give her the treatment - Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that she needs. We decided to go with the turn her over to the state option. At court they said we are being charged with neglect (they say they can't prove it and they will amend it but we don't think we should count on that). They also say we will have to pay child support and we did a calculator estimate and came up with 750 a month. We can not afford that. We will probably have to sell our house or go into deep debt. We are meeting with an attorney today, but it is all a whirlwind of information and decisions. What can we do about the child support? Our insurance won't pay until we meet the 6,000 deductible and then they don't fund things that are not "necessary". It has been reassuring reading other posts to know that we are not alone. She has been diagnosed with ADD. She also has tried to kill herself a couple of times and suffers from depression. She is in AT now for her own protection.