I'm new. So to start off.... I voluntarily placed my 16 yo difficult child in a group home 4 months ago. i was worn out and out of options from dealing with her behavior for the past 5 years. i finally in the last year got someone to listen to me that something was wrong with her after she began cutting and had several suicide threats which ended in me having to take her to the er and have her admitted. long story short, we finally have a social worker, psychiatrist and iep in place at school after me having to fight tooth and nail for someone to listen to me. my difficult child is a great manipulator and liar and after talking with her and evaluating her, somehow the "dr.s" would always either place the blame with me or tell me it was all in my head because she was a completely "normal teen". last summer she was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety, add, and odd. so, i made the difficult decision to place her out of our home in april into a group home 1 1/2 hours from here where she would get 24/7 care. they have a dbt program and everything else that she needs. i was feeling really good about the decision, even though it killed me, i knew she would be safe and watched and getting help daily. the honeymoon period is finally over. she's now starting to show her true colors there. she has gotten 3 mrv's (major rule violations) in the last week, forged her primary's signature twice for passes, among other things. she's blatantly disrespecting and disobeying staff, causing fights between peers and refusing to work on any part of her program. as much as i'm upset for her behavior, i'm so glad she's not putting on a show anymore. because they can't help her if they don't know who she really is. but i was really hoping she would be home in time to start school. we got a letter from my son's 5th grade teacher reminding him to bring his family for pictures for open house at school and i started crying because my difficult child won't be in the picture for the first time. it's not supposed to work this way. i'm so upset today realizing the dreams i had for my daughter aren't happening. her goal was to graduate from hs here. she'll be lucky if she graduates, period. she still has all of 9th and 10th grade to make up and she starts 11th in 2 weeks. when is she going to get it through her head? ugh, i'm so sad today.