hearts and roses
Mind Reader
difficult child is having an ultrasound today midday. I'm going with her. She has to drink something like a gallon of water beforehand (remember that feeling? Ugh). She has been on the depo shot for over a year and hasn't had a period in that long. Her pain is in her lower abdomen and so the ultrasound is precautionary in nature. She is also suffering with a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI) and on antibiotics for that. In addition, her Dr is watching difficult child's weight as she continues to lose and lose. She's down to 98 lbs now and still slightly anemic. She continues to eat haphazardly, her dr continues to convince her to stop drinking so much coffee and to smoke less, which difficult child is trying, just not so effectively. I am trying to hold a positive thought that none of this is serious and that she will bounce back. With difficult child, if it isn't one thing, it's another. IOW, if she's emotionally on track and not having mood swings, her physical health takes a dump or vice versa. I'd like to see her overall health even out for a while. That would be nice.
In other news, we have deduced that easy child's boyfriend is a difficult child. I've always suspected. easy child told me that her boyfriend spent the better part of 5 hours in the psychiatric ward of the hospital yesterday in a stripped down room. He went in because he felt he was suffering from a panic attack and the staff responded by putting him in an isolated room to 'wait' for the Dr. Turns out they were monitoring him...watching to see how long it would take for him to truly panic or flip out?? WTH? Anyway, after 4.5 hours, a Dr came in, removed him from the room and brought him into another room where they offered him to spend the night and meet with someone from psychiatric in the morning (meaning today) or see his regular Dr instead. He chose to see his regular Dr instead (he will be seen this morning). The hospital Dr said that easy child's boyfriend (we will call him Casper) should see a psychiatrist for medications for his anxiety and they gave him Klonipin. They also said that he should see a counselor. When he was telling this to easy child, he told her, "I never told you any of this before because I was afraid you wouldn't want to deal with it" (this, based on easy child's history with her difficult child sister). Anyway, he went on to tell her that he's had these panic attacks before - as early as 10 years old, though he doesn't know why. He also told her that the other night at dinner while Casper and H were talking that he felt one coming on and that was why he left the house and went for a walk by himself.
Casper was diagnosis'ed with ADHD was a kid, he definitely has insecurity issues, he had some trouble with the law and because of that he feels there are certain jobs he cannot have even though those illegal activities are behind him. He's a good guy overall, really, but we have always felt like he was holding back around us. He's always joking, never serious. If someone asks him a serious question, he will turn it into a joking situation and laugh nervously to deflect the question. This latest piece of the puzzle just helps me to understand him a bit more.
easy child is worried that since he hasn't been as forthcoming about this issue, what other issues may he be hiding from her as well. I wasn't sure exactly how to advise her except for her to explain to him that she wants to know what's up with him when it's happening; let him see that is opening herself up to him so he can trust her more with his emotions. Like my H, unfortunately, I can see that Casper is emotionally challenged and I can't help but worry for easy child.
In other news, we have deduced that easy child's boyfriend is a difficult child. I've always suspected. easy child told me that her boyfriend spent the better part of 5 hours in the psychiatric ward of the hospital yesterday in a stripped down room. He went in because he felt he was suffering from a panic attack and the staff responded by putting him in an isolated room to 'wait' for the Dr. Turns out they were monitoring him...watching to see how long it would take for him to truly panic or flip out?? WTH? Anyway, after 4.5 hours, a Dr came in, removed him from the room and brought him into another room where they offered him to spend the night and meet with someone from psychiatric in the morning (meaning today) or see his regular Dr instead. He chose to see his regular Dr instead (he will be seen this morning). The hospital Dr said that easy child's boyfriend (we will call him Casper) should see a psychiatrist for medications for his anxiety and they gave him Klonipin. They also said that he should see a counselor. When he was telling this to easy child, he told her, "I never told you any of this before because I was afraid you wouldn't want to deal with it" (this, based on easy child's history with her difficult child sister). Anyway, he went on to tell her that he's had these panic attacks before - as early as 10 years old, though he doesn't know why. He also told her that the other night at dinner while Casper and H were talking that he felt one coming on and that was why he left the house and went for a walk by himself.
Casper was diagnosis'ed with ADHD was a kid, he definitely has insecurity issues, he had some trouble with the law and because of that he feels there are certain jobs he cannot have even though those illegal activities are behind him. He's a good guy overall, really, but we have always felt like he was holding back around us. He's always joking, never serious. If someone asks him a serious question, he will turn it into a joking situation and laugh nervously to deflect the question. This latest piece of the puzzle just helps me to understand him a bit more.
easy child is worried that since he hasn't been as forthcoming about this issue, what other issues may he be hiding from her as well. I wasn't sure exactly how to advise her except for her to explain to him that she wants to know what's up with him when it's happening; let him see that is opening herself up to him so he can trust her more with his emotions. Like my H, unfortunately, I can see that Casper is emotionally challenged and I can't help but worry for easy child.