BusynMember
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I am going to change a ton of identifying information.
There is somebody who adopted several children and most of them are doing really well, no problems at all. She and her husband are excellent parents, loving, firm but kind. They adopted a child I will call Adam (not his real name) when he was a year old. His birthmother had used drugs and was diagnosed with a serious mental disorder. He was always difficult and different and, as he was dragged from professional to professional, and given some stints in the hospital, nobody could really put a finger on the problem, but he got increasingly violent as he grew older. This, I know, is status quo. The next part isn't and Friend is wondering if it's finally time to admit that he can't live in her house anymore. There are both older and younger children of both genders there.
Adam is between 9-11 and has admitted he is attracted to little girls...around three to four etc. The parents are terrified as he has told them this many times. There is no indication he has acted out, but there is no indication he hasn't either. He is currently in a hospital after destroying part of their house. He is due to be released soon. They have no idea what to do. I told them I would ask for opinions here because you guys are not emotionally involved in the situation. Right now, the kids all sleep with their doors locked and he has a room alone.
He has had every diagnosis under the sun, been on a ton of medications, seen psychiatrists, therapists, social works and the police a lot too because of his escalating violence, his large size, and the fact t hat nobody can restrain him when he gets out of control. Would you let him come home to your family in this situation? Remember, as of yet, he was never CAUGHT touching anybody. He is getting the best of help, but he is getting worse.
Tyvm.
There is somebody who adopted several children and most of them are doing really well, no problems at all. She and her husband are excellent parents, loving, firm but kind. They adopted a child I will call Adam (not his real name) when he was a year old. His birthmother had used drugs and was diagnosed with a serious mental disorder. He was always difficult and different and, as he was dragged from professional to professional, and given some stints in the hospital, nobody could really put a finger on the problem, but he got increasingly violent as he grew older. This, I know, is status quo. The next part isn't and Friend is wondering if it's finally time to admit that he can't live in her house anymore. There are both older and younger children of both genders there.
Adam is between 9-11 and has admitted he is attracted to little girls...around three to four etc. The parents are terrified as he has told them this many times. There is no indication he has acted out, but there is no indication he hasn't either. He is currently in a hospital after destroying part of their house. He is due to be released soon. They have no idea what to do. I told them I would ask for opinions here because you guys are not emotionally involved in the situation. Right now, the kids all sleep with their doors locked and he has a room alone.
He has had every diagnosis under the sun, been on a ton of medications, seen psychiatrists, therapists, social works and the police a lot too because of his escalating violence, his large size, and the fact t hat nobody can restrain him when he gets out of control. Would you let him come home to your family in this situation? Remember, as of yet, he was never CAUGHT touching anybody. He is getting the best of help, but he is getting worse.
Tyvm.