If you recall, there was more than a bit of tension this past Christmas when my in-law's, easy child 2's mother, and her mother (easy child 2's grandmother) bought easy child 2 a video game behind our backs and then told her to hide it from us (the reason for hiding it is unclear). *** To put it mildly, I was p*ssed, and it was the final straw with the in-laws. Either they were going to treat me with some respect (including not making their granddaughter lie to me), or I was walking away from them all. I still think I would have. *** easy child 2 was recently here on spring break for 6 days. One afternoon, my mom watched the kids while I worked, and she took them to the park. Wee difficult child took his Heelies, and easy child 2 made the comment that she wished she could bring hers. I bit and asked, and she has a pair at her mom's, but she said her mom won't let her bring them here because 'she might forget to take them back home'. But her mom also 'never takes her anywhere to use them, either'. easy child 2 was upset. (mom also won't let her bring the video game here, nor any books to read, basically anything mom buys is not allowed to come here…which I think is very wrong - particularly because we fund a lot more than half...) *** If you'll recall, easy child 2 is primarily raised by maternal grandma. Grandma gets her on the bus and off, buys what she needs, sometimes including groceries, takes her to the doctor and stays with her when she's sick, etc. Mom doesn't even have a copy of easy child 2's insurance card " just grandma. If we want or need something and can't get ahold of mom, we're supposed to call grandma, she has 'the power to make decisions'. *** So I told easy child 2 to call grandma the next morning, explain that my mom was taking them to the park and she wanted to Heeley, and ask grandma if she could get them. I suspected grandma would not object and of course, she didn't. *** Was I just as bad as them, going behind mom's back? 'Cause all this weekend, I've felt guilty!