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butterflydreams
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Well I have a definite date of July 1st (or so I am told) for difficult child to go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I was told by the intake person that the only thing now is the time. I am to let them know what time. The current patient is due to leave at 9am - so anytime after that.
Now I just need to figure out the hows. How and when to tell difficult child. I have asked numerous people that are familiar with difficult child give me several different answers. I called and left a message for difficult child's psychiatrist giving the date and how to handle it. difficult child does have a psychiatrist appointment on Friday at noon, but I don't want to wait until then to talk to psychiatrist, I want psychiatrist to have a heads up before then.
The opinions I have received are don't tell him until the morning of, start dropping hints now, tell him as soon as you have a definite date, or don't tell him at all just show up. These opinions all come from his current therapist, his past therapist, his therapist from when he was at psychiatric hospital, the psychologist at the psychiatric hospital, and the intake specialist at the psychiatric hospital.
difficult child has huge trust issues already. When he went inpatient last time, he kept asking me to be upfront with him on what was happening. He has said numerous times he still can't trust me because his very first hospitalization I just took him there without telling him why.
I really don't know what to expect from him. A lot depends on his mood. Last time I really expected him to blow up and he didn't. When they put him inpatient directly from partial back in March, everyone expected to see some kind of blow up and there was none. He was just clueless how he ended up inpatient because he thought he was doing better even though he had been on a rapid decline.
I hate to say it but I just want Tuesday to come so that maybe, just maybe my stomach can settle down.
Christy
Now I just need to figure out the hows. How and when to tell difficult child. I have asked numerous people that are familiar with difficult child give me several different answers. I called and left a message for difficult child's psychiatrist giving the date and how to handle it. difficult child does have a psychiatrist appointment on Friday at noon, but I don't want to wait until then to talk to psychiatrist, I want psychiatrist to have a heads up before then.
The opinions I have received are don't tell him until the morning of, start dropping hints now, tell him as soon as you have a definite date, or don't tell him at all just show up. These opinions all come from his current therapist, his past therapist, his therapist from when he was at psychiatric hospital, the psychologist at the psychiatric hospital, and the intake specialist at the psychiatric hospital.
difficult child has huge trust issues already. When he went inpatient last time, he kept asking me to be upfront with him on what was happening. He has said numerous times he still can't trust me because his very first hospitalization I just took him there without telling him why.
I really don't know what to expect from him. A lot depends on his mood. Last time I really expected him to blow up and he didn't. When they put him inpatient directly from partial back in March, everyone expected to see some kind of blow up and there was none. He was just clueless how he ended up inpatient because he thought he was doing better even though he had been on a rapid decline.
I hate to say it but I just want Tuesday to come so that maybe, just maybe my stomach can settle down.
Christy