I beg your pardon! LOL!
I bit my tongue as long as I could then called PO's super. We had a civil talk and apparently, PO did tell her about what he'd recommended- as far as difficult child coming home with a caseworker but she over-rode it. Fine, but then there was no reason to call me up and go off on me acting like a DR. J and Mr. H. She defended him, of course, but I think she got the point- he could have been considerate enough to just say "look, after further thought and discussion, things have changed to ABC". Anyway, she is so sold on this group home. I talked to her about my concerns and she says she will talk to PO tomorrow- he's out today- and try to set up a video conference between them, me, and difficult child for next week. Now, I think her point is to prove why group home is the best solution and I completely understand why it's the first reaction. But, I still don't think a long term group home is in difficult child's best interest. But the super will choose particular words I say then tell me "see, that supports the group home decision", but if it doesn't support the group home decision, she says "well, we'll see what we can do" or "maybe after group home you can think about that". She said sometimes she is in the room when PO calls me- well, if not on speaker phone and me not being aware (which would be illegal in this state), that means she's only hearing his side of the conversation. I guess that explains why some of his verbage doesn't add up to a decent response to what I just said- he saying it for her benefit and to make it look like I said something different than what I did. A-hole. He's not doing anything except CYAing himself. I'm going to try to have an attny in on the video-conference.
To me, it's (long term group home) the quick, easy answer, but not the best, most logical answer. It might solve 1 or 2 problems but the long term repercussions and domino effect are horrible.
I just sooo want to get this job tomorrow, then try to get super to at least put "group home under consideration" or something instead of having it cast in stone.
I kept stressing to her that PO went from 'least restrictive' placement of difficult child coming home with nothing but me enforcing 30 days house arrest to most restrictive placement short of incarceration- long term group home with him aging out of the system, and there are a lot of options in between that should be considered. (That's what last attny said should be point to argue in court.)
