toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi my SA friends,
So last night was New Years. I had recently bought a bottle of champagne for last night as we were having a couple over for dinner to celebrate the new year. My easy child daughter is home after her first semester at college. She was meeting her college friends last night and spending the night. I knew they were going to be drinking as overall she is very open with me. Obviously I dont really approve but I am just talking with her about it, making sure she wouldnt drink and drive etc.
My easy child is a very sensible, good kid who has never caused us any trouble at all. She and I have a great relationship and are very close.
So last night when I went to the fridge to get the champagne it was gone!!!! My heart sank and I thought Gosh my easy child must have taken it. That made me quite mad partly because it meant we didnt have the champagne for our friends (although none of us are big drinkers so that was not a big deal) and partly just because she did it without asking AND she knows we would not want to provide her and her friends with alcohol!!! It was just so sneaky, out of line and so absolutely unlike her. She had never done anything like this before! Part of me was just shocked that she would do it..... and part of me wondered if I was somehow mistaken because I ddint want to believe she did that.
So I texted her and asked if she took it. Then I tried calling her.. It was a couple of hours before she responded.
But this is where she differed from my difficult child. If it had been him, number one he would have lied to me and tried to make me think somehow I was mistaken. At this point I would not have fallen for that but I have fallen for that many times in the past. Instead once my easy child responded she said yes she took it, she felt really bad about it and so didnt drink it. I asked her if she would be bringing it home unopened and she said yes. And she apologized several more times. I think she felt really bad about doing it and I am releived that she has a consience and hopefully she will bring it back unopened when she gets home.
And a small part of me is glad to know she really is not the perfect child, that she too does things that are typical teenage stuff because honestly I can see that I would have done something similar at her age. Yet I am hugely relieved that she is honest with me and felt bad about it.
TL
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So last night was New Years. I had recently bought a bottle of champagne for last night as we were having a couple over for dinner to celebrate the new year. My easy child daughter is home after her first semester at college. She was meeting her college friends last night and spending the night. I knew they were going to be drinking as overall she is very open with me. Obviously I dont really approve but I am just talking with her about it, making sure she wouldnt drink and drive etc.
My easy child is a very sensible, good kid who has never caused us any trouble at all. She and I have a great relationship and are very close.
So last night when I went to the fridge to get the champagne it was gone!!!! My heart sank and I thought Gosh my easy child must have taken it. That made me quite mad partly because it meant we didnt have the champagne for our friends (although none of us are big drinkers so that was not a big deal) and partly just because she did it without asking AND she knows we would not want to provide her and her friends with alcohol!!! It was just so sneaky, out of line and so absolutely unlike her. She had never done anything like this before! Part of me was just shocked that she would do it..... and part of me wondered if I was somehow mistaken because I ddint want to believe she did that.
So I texted her and asked if she took it. Then I tried calling her.. It was a couple of hours before she responded.
But this is where she differed from my difficult child. If it had been him, number one he would have lied to me and tried to make me think somehow I was mistaken. At this point I would not have fallen for that but I have fallen for that many times in the past. Instead once my easy child responded she said yes she took it, she felt really bad about it and so didnt drink it. I asked her if she would be bringing it home unopened and she said yes. And she apologized several more times. I think she felt really bad about doing it and I am releived that she has a consience and hopefully she will bring it back unopened when she gets home.
And a small part of me is glad to know she really is not the perfect child, that she too does things that are typical teenage stuff because honestly I can see that I would have done something similar at her age. Yet I am hugely relieved that she is honest with me and felt bad about it.
TL
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