BusynMember
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We just got a huge report for Sonic (our almost eighteen year old son). We took him for a very intensive evaluation so that he could get services when he reached adulthood (sigh). For a long time we hoped he'd be able to live independently, but that clearly is not going to happen anytime soon or possibly forever. His diagnoses are autism/cognitive disability not otherwise specified (his IQ is normal, but his life skills and social skills and academic levels are all way below normal).
We are going to get guardianship of him. Ok, then what? We can't live forever. I am already 57 and hub is 55. Realistically, my other kids will marry and have kids of their own and it's unlikely any will want him to live with them. That leaves assisted living or group homes. He is a happy young man who will gladly accept assistance. In fact, he prefers it. However, hub and I are not sure what to do.
Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do about your child who is really not capable of living on his own? He does not date or want to ever marry...so hoping for a good match is currently not going to happen...lol.
We are going to get guardianship of him. Ok, then what? We can't live forever. I am already 57 and hub is 55. Realistically, my other kids will marry and have kids of their own and it's unlikely any will want him to live with them. That leaves assisted living or group homes. He is a happy young man who will gladly accept assistance. In fact, he prefers it. However, hub and I are not sure what to do.
Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do about your child who is really not capable of living on his own? He does not date or want to ever marry...so hoping for a good match is currently not going to happen...lol.