I'm looking for advice or information from anyone who was not on the same page as their spouse when it comes to discipline, and if you were able to get on the same page and how you did that.
My husband thinks nothing of our 14 yr old son cussing us out (saying some really horrible things to us), threatening to punch us. husband has never been able to finish the sentence "if you do that one more time...." husband has never followed through with any kind of discipline.
We started family therapy last spring when 14 yr old was kicked out of school. Unfortunately the agency we've been using had some re-structuring and did several lay-offs. We saw the first therapist weekly for about 6 weeks before he was let go. The same with the second. We just started last week with our latest, so he hasn't had time to delve into our issues.
The therapists understand where my yelling at the kids comes from - frustration that husband will not step in and help, and usually undermines anything I try with a "why are you yelling at the kids" in front of them.
Has anyone else been in this situation and able to get on the same page with their spouse?
My husband thinks nothing of our 14 yr old son cussing us out (saying some really horrible things to us), threatening to punch us. husband has never been able to finish the sentence "if you do that one more time...." husband has never followed through with any kind of discipline.
We started family therapy last spring when 14 yr old was kicked out of school. Unfortunately the agency we've been using had some re-structuring and did several lay-offs. We saw the first therapist weekly for about 6 weeks before he was let go. The same with the second. We just started last week with our latest, so he hasn't had time to delve into our issues.
The therapists understand where my yelling at the kids comes from - frustration that husband will not step in and help, and usually undermines anything I try with a "why are you yelling at the kids" in front of them.
Has anyone else been in this situation and able to get on the same page with their spouse?