BusynMember
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We have a nightmare going on at school because we were tricked into signing an IEP last year that dismisses my daughter N. from Special Education. They told us she could just go back to Special Education anytime if she had problems...hahaha. Now they're saying "Well, you signed her out of it so it will take a long time." The short version is hub and I are going to mediation and the school districts are both freaking out so maybe we really won't have to go that far, but N. can not pass her classes without interventions because she can't remember what she is taught. This is how sh e explained it to us, not verbatim.
"I can study all day and all night, but I have a bad memory and will not remember during the test."
And it's true. She does all her homework and gets A's and B's on the homework. She takes good notes. She studies. She is not a troublemaker and is a hard worker. She does have ADD and an auditory memory problem, but because she did so well WITH INTERVENTIONS last year they discharged her from Special Education. Well, we're taking care of that in a way that isn't making them happy, but it's the only way to get her reinstated...long story. But any ideas on what would make a normal kid who is definitely not on the spectrum and who has no mental health issues have such a poor memory? This shows up at home too. She forgets things all the time and can not organize. It's beyond just her ADD.
We are neuropsychologist testing her, but the waiting list for the best neuropsychologist is long. I'm just curious as to what you think may be causing it. She used to be able to use her notes during testing and we are trying to get that reinstated. On her last World History test, in spite of getting all A's and B's on her homework, turning it all in, taking notes, and participating in class she only got 3 right out of 50. Because she failed it, she couldn't play in her team's last volleyball game and that's where she feels good about herself...in sports. We've already met with the school to get her extra help, but she still won't get Special Education help, like the notes for tests (only the Learning Disability (LD) kids can get that). They keep saying "We can't do it because you agreed to discharging her from Special Education." (sigh) The thing is, the only reason we signed was because they also said "She can go right back into it if she has trouble." Hub was there. Daughter was there. We argued long and hard and finally gave in. But they didn't write THAT on the IEP (yes, we should have checked it over first). But they DID say it...that's why we're going to mediation. And the mediator that we talked with said something interesting. "The system is set up for the child to fail first THEN you get help. Write down in your note to the district that you want to prevent her from failing." Grrrrrrrrrr. Well, that's what we did, with the mediator on our side. We sent in the papers to ask for mediation yesterday...but what can we do for daughter until this is all sorted out?
What would cause memory problems other than anxiety, which I doubt is the whole picture? She is not a particularly anxious kid. Thanks for any ideas. Frazzled mom here.
"I can study all day and all night, but I have a bad memory and will not remember during the test."
And it's true. She does all her homework and gets A's and B's on the homework. She takes good notes. She studies. She is not a troublemaker and is a hard worker. She does have ADD and an auditory memory problem, but because she did so well WITH INTERVENTIONS last year they discharged her from Special Education. Well, we're taking care of that in a way that isn't making them happy, but it's the only way to get her reinstated...long story. But any ideas on what would make a normal kid who is definitely not on the spectrum and who has no mental health issues have such a poor memory? This shows up at home too. She forgets things all the time and can not organize. It's beyond just her ADD.
We are neuropsychologist testing her, but the waiting list for the best neuropsychologist is long. I'm just curious as to what you think may be causing it. She used to be able to use her notes during testing and we are trying to get that reinstated. On her last World History test, in spite of getting all A's and B's on her homework, turning it all in, taking notes, and participating in class she only got 3 right out of 50. Because she failed it, she couldn't play in her team's last volleyball game and that's where she feels good about herself...in sports. We've already met with the school to get her extra help, but she still won't get Special Education help, like the notes for tests (only the Learning Disability (LD) kids can get that). They keep saying "We can't do it because you agreed to discharging her from Special Education." (sigh) The thing is, the only reason we signed was because they also said "She can go right back into it if she has trouble." Hub was there. Daughter was there. We argued long and hard and finally gave in. But they didn't write THAT on the IEP (yes, we should have checked it over first). But they DID say it...that's why we're going to mediation. And the mediator that we talked with said something interesting. "The system is set up for the child to fail first THEN you get help. Write down in your note to the district that you want to prevent her from failing." Grrrrrrrrrr. Well, that's what we did, with the mediator on our side. We sent in the papers to ask for mediation yesterday...but what can we do for daughter until this is all sorted out?
What would cause memory problems other than anxiety, which I doubt is the whole picture? She is not a particularly anxious kid. Thanks for any ideas. Frazzled mom here.
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