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firehorsewoman
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difficult child's dad picked him (and easy child) up last night after them having stayed with me for a week while ex was on vacation. We had yet another argument regarding his medication. He then told me that 90% of the behavior that I report he does not see at his house.
Would it be better for difficult child to not stay here? I cannot recreate the environment of what goes on in a two parent authoritative parenting style home. I am just not like his dad. Also, as I posted before, my son's behavior has always been worse with me. Being a single mom only makes things much worse.
The ex told the psychiatrist at last appointment "She just cannot handle an eight year old" so I am certain that is how he would spin it...if he consented to the change at all. The thing that got me about his comment was that it was made two days after my son was sent to the principal's office for not listening to his PE coach when she told him repeatedly to stop playing a hitting/choking game with his friend. So I replied, "His coach who deals with hundreds of kids a week could not control his behavior either...it is not just me."
I genuinely want to do what is best for my child. If the daily meltdowns don't happen at his father's house, if my son falls asleep with no problem at his father's house, etc wouldn't it be better for him to stay there 100% of the time?
I know that it would be hard on my son in other ways, but our quality of life now is so poor that this cannot be good for any of us.
Would it be better for difficult child to not stay here? I cannot recreate the environment of what goes on in a two parent authoritative parenting style home. I am just not like his dad. Also, as I posted before, my son's behavior has always been worse with me. Being a single mom only makes things much worse.
The ex told the psychiatrist at last appointment "She just cannot handle an eight year old" so I am certain that is how he would spin it...if he consented to the change at all. The thing that got me about his comment was that it was made two days after my son was sent to the principal's office for not listening to his PE coach when she told him repeatedly to stop playing a hitting/choking game with his friend. So I replied, "His coach who deals with hundreds of kids a week could not control his behavior either...it is not just me."
I genuinely want to do what is best for my child. If the daily meltdowns don't happen at his father's house, if my son falls asleep with no problem at his father's house, etc wouldn't it be better for him to stay there 100% of the time?
I know that it would be hard on my son in other ways, but our quality of life now is so poor that this cannot be good for any of us.