I don't think it was the smell because after husband cleaned off the shoe he sprayed the bottom of it with Lysol and you really could not smell anything bad. I think the thought that easy child actually stepped in poop was what freaked him out, because poop if gross.
Tedo, ICD is right. I had no problems leaving him home. Really, going out for dinner with just easy child is really enjoyable. I was not going to stay home with him, and that was what he wanted. IF he can't get, then I can't go either. He realized that was not going to happen, so if he wanted take out night he needed to go because he was not getting his way.
We had another instance this morning. A friend gave me a doughnut maker for my birthday and difficult child has been chomping at the bit to make doughnuts, so I told him that we would make them this morning when husband and easy child were at hockey practice. They were leaving for practice at 9:30 am. difficult child knew what the requirements were. So at about 8:30 he starts wigging out because I won't make doughnuts "RIGHT NOW!!!!!" I calmy told him that I told him we would make them when dad and easy child had left for practice. He carried on for a while, and started with, "If we don't make them now we're not making them at all." Okay. Fine by me. Then I get that if we don't make doughnuts he won't empty the dishwasher. Okay, that's your choice, but if you don't empty the dishwasher then you get to sit on your bed today doing nothing because refusal to do chores = no priviledges. All this time I was sitting in the kitchen because easy child was eating breakfast and I didn't trust that difficult child would leave easy child alone. easy child finishes eating. I get him to go upstairs and get dressed, I go upstairs to make my bed, difficult child follows me, still squawking about the doughnuts. He comes in my room, still having fits. I told him to leave, which he did (surprisingly). A few minutes later, stood at my door and asked if he could come in. He tells me that he's sorry and asks if we can still make doughnuts. I told him that if he stayed calm and did everything that he needed to do, we could make them at the time that I said we would make them. I now have two plates of mini doughnuts sitting in my kitchen.
I think that weaning difficult child off of the Zoloft is helping. A few weeks ago he never would have been able to calm himself down enough for either of these episodes to end well.