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“In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 648270" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Me too, my dear friend. It is nearly impossible to do it all the time/very well/consistently. </p><p></p><p>Maybe it is not to be...completely...between a mother and her child. </p><p></p><p>But it is still a worthy goal and something to pursue, even knowing we will never get there. Because the more I can let go, the better my life is.</p><p></p><p>It calls to mind another relationship that I struggle with...off and on...today, struggling with it. My sister, who is 2 years younger than me, and our relationship. I continue to have unmet expectations. In the far past, I would have pushed her hard to give me what I want. Now today, I am still hurt, still disappointed, but I am taking more responsibility, realizing I have expectations at all.</p><p></p><p>It's not her job to live up to my expectations. </p><p></p><p>But when you love someone, you care, you want to have a rich relationship with them...and when you try and try and it feels like you are continually rebuffed...or treated carelessly...it's hard.</p><p></p><p>So today...I shook myself like a wet dog does...and I said, hey, self, it's YOU not Her.</p><p></p><p>And now I'm trying to accept that.</p><p></p><p>Ugh. This letting go stuff is always going to be hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 648270, member: 17542"] Me too, my dear friend. It is nearly impossible to do it all the time/very well/consistently. Maybe it is not to be...completely...between a mother and her child. But it is still a worthy goal and something to pursue, even knowing we will never get there. Because the more I can let go, the better my life is. It calls to mind another relationship that I struggle with...off and on...today, struggling with it. My sister, who is 2 years younger than me, and our relationship. I continue to have unmet expectations. In the far past, I would have pushed her hard to give me what I want. Now today, I am still hurt, still disappointed, but I am taking more responsibility, realizing I have expectations at all. It's not her job to live up to my expectations. But when you love someone, you care, you want to have a rich relationship with them...and when you try and try and it feels like you are continually rebuffed...or treated carelessly...it's hard. So today...I shook myself like a wet dog does...and I said, hey, self, it's YOU not Her. And now I'm trying to accept that. Ugh. This letting go stuff is always going to be hard. [/QUOTE]
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