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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 239975" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Ok, so, I called the 4th place- this is one that the super had suggested yesterady. They do NO in-home services but said that they are a group home. They said any in-home provider needs to be aware that my son has an Axis 1 diagnosis. They gave me the name of 2 places that <em>might</em> do in home to help with psychiatric disorders. </p><p></p><p>Since it was getting late afternoon, I called to see if I could reach PO before she left to let her know what I'd learned. I got her voice mail and left message. Then, I called her super and he was in. He backed up what PO had told me and I reminded him that he was the one that said I could call these places yesterday. Anyway, he kept stressing that I have to let this assessment happen, even though I never questioned him or disputed that. All I said was that the admissions person there told me that don't handle cases like that, but these places might, wouldn't it make more sense to get an assessment from a place that does do in home with psychiatric disorders? That went around in circles.</p><p></p><p>Then, he wanted to know where difficult child was. I said he was in back room playing games. He asked if he went to school today and I said no. He said, see- it is you allowing that to happen. He should be punished because he is calling the shots in that house and just doing whatever he wants. So I guessed he stayed up all night and just told you he didn't want to go to school today.</p><p></p><p>I said no, that isn't what is going on and this is where the big communication problem lies. I think you guys are not seeing anything about the mental health issue here and maybe you are thinking that I'm just allowing all this and don't care and using mental health issues as an excuse. He said no, I was enabling my son and I was the crux of the problem because I bought into all that. He said all teens go thru things like this and I needed to learn not to let him- that good parents don't let their kids do things like that. He said when he was young, if he didn't feel like going to school, he had to stay in bed all day and I should be punishing my child all day. He point blank said that I was the problem. He said I'd let my son take over the house and that people didn't have issues like that when he was a child- they got in trouble for it.</p><p></p><p>I said what about what the professionals say and maybe it isn't all in difficult child's control or my control. He said well, he didn't know, he wasn't a dr and if this is what was wrong, why wasn't that dr giving the tools to fix it all. What was I paying him to do? </p><p></p><p>I didn't say anything. He said just let this assessment take place so we can figure out where to go from here and they need to figure out what is in difficult child's control and what isn't. I agreed to that.</p><p></p><p>Then he told me that I didn't need to keep calling over there- (even though the PO had told me to call and keep her informed) and as long as difficult child wasn't breaking the law, they didn't care about any of it- that I could take care of his mental health issues, but that difficult child needed to get to school.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 239975, member: 3699"] Ok, so, I called the 4th place- this is one that the super had suggested yesterady. They do NO in-home services but said that they are a group home. They said any in-home provider needs to be aware that my son has an Axis 1 diagnosis. They gave me the name of 2 places that [I]might[/I] do in home to help with psychiatric disorders. Since it was getting late afternoon, I called to see if I could reach PO before she left to let her know what I'd learned. I got her voice mail and left message. Then, I called her super and he was in. He backed up what PO had told me and I reminded him that he was the one that said I could call these places yesterday. Anyway, he kept stressing that I have to let this assessment happen, even though I never questioned him or disputed that. All I said was that the admissions person there told me that don't handle cases like that, but these places might, wouldn't it make more sense to get an assessment from a place that does do in home with psychiatric disorders? That went around in circles. Then, he wanted to know where difficult child was. I said he was in back room playing games. He asked if he went to school today and I said no. He said, see- it is you allowing that to happen. He should be punished because he is calling the shots in that house and just doing whatever he wants. So I guessed he stayed up all night and just told you he didn't want to go to school today. I said no, that isn't what is going on and this is where the big communication problem lies. I think you guys are not seeing anything about the mental health issue here and maybe you are thinking that I'm just allowing all this and don't care and using mental health issues as an excuse. He said no, I was enabling my son and I was the crux of the problem because I bought into all that. He said all teens go thru things like this and I needed to learn not to let him- that good parents don't let their kids do things like that. He said when he was young, if he didn't feel like going to school, he had to stay in bed all day and I should be punishing my child all day. He point blank said that I was the problem. He said I'd let my son take over the house and that people didn't have issues like that when he was a child- they got in trouble for it. I said what about what the professionals say and maybe it isn't all in difficult child's control or my control. He said well, he didn't know, he wasn't a dr and if this is what was wrong, why wasn't that dr giving the tools to fix it all. What was I paying him to do? I didn't say anything. He said just let this assessment take place so we can figure out where to go from here and they need to figure out what is in difficult child's control and what isn't. I agreed to that. Then he told me that I didn't need to keep calling over there- (even though the PO had told me to call and keep her informed) and as long as difficult child wasn't breaking the law, they didn't care about any of it- that I could take care of his mental health issues, but that difficult child needed to get to school. [/QUOTE]
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