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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 240078" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>The two things bugging the most are 1) every time difficult child goes thru a period of instability I go thru this. First, ti was thru day cares and schools- because the issues were coming out there and it became a battle with me thinking they were doing somehing wrong and them thinking it was either a bad kid or a bad parent. The following year, the school again. Then, the GAL, PO and mst guy. But this time, there is really no excuse for the PO going down this road agin. She was there when I testified about all this last year. The times of year that difficult child gets manic and everything. I thought it was an improvement that he hasn't been exhibiting this at school and community- so far, it's being kept in home. So, that doesn't mean that we still don't have room for impreovement, but for someone to say to me that I am causing this problem, after this has been an episodic thing with difficult child for 3 years now really rubs me the wrong way. Especially after already having a hearing discussing difficult child's treatment and having to prove to social services 18 mos ago what all I'd done to try to get difficult child help. PO is aware of all that. Am I going to catch this flack every time difficult child is unstable for the rest of his life? He went out of control because I LET him?</p><p></p><p>You know, the GAL got assigned because I said I couldn't get more help for difficult child. I ended up regretting that because she stirred up stuff that cost me thousands of dollars to prove in court, not to mention my time off work for it all. Now, I'm left again feeling like I need to get an attny on board again and I can't afford it.</p><p>2) Probably most of us here have had tdocs that thought it was the parents' fault and that if we just did things their way for some time, they could help the problem. I'm concerned that a therapist is going to show up to do this assessment that doesn't really understand BiPolar (BP) symptoms or thinks medications take care of all them or has already been convinced that difficult child has no problem but me and completely ignore any BiPolar (BP) issues here- so then it would look like an out of control kid. I'm going to call that lady from this place back on Monday and talk to her about this, plus see if I can get something in writing. Furthermore, anyone that does an assessment on us should be familiar working with BiPolar (BP). MST guy said he was but then refused to talk about any of them- he wanted this to all change to difficult child and me and our household dynamics to change to work like there was no mental health issue here. Is that possible if the kid isn't stable? I don't think so. If it was, I don't think we would be here on this board.</p><p></p><p>Super told me today that the assessment might be during the next meeting with PO. I said I thought I'd like some time to talk to the provider alone. He said ok. I asked him to verify that the assessment was going to be at the PO's office? He said he didn't know but it could be and he might stop by there. He said PO would be going over rules and he'd try to pop his head in just to see how things were going. I said should I bring previous reports on difficult child and everything? He said yeah, go ahead and bring that stuff. I swear, this is sounding more and more like this isn't really going to be an assessment- this is going to be orders and threats.</p><p></p><p>Isn't there any way for me to refuse this assessment and say they need to get one by a provider that works with psychiatric disorders?</p><p></p><p>Also, today the super said he didn't care what my financial or any other issues were, he was just concerned about getting difficult child what he needs. Well, how is difficult child going to get what he needs this way when I am telling them that I have no money to continue this? I really think the judge needs to get involved- or someone familiar with BiPolar (BP). The super said ALL the letters from profs said difficult child needed intensive in home services. No, they said we needed in home help thru county team and psychiatrists included that being on probation was interfering with my ability to get difficult child more services. But again, the guy cut me off when I started to say that and told me to listen to him some more.</p><p></p><p>When I testified last Jan, I told judge if my son was going to live in my home, he was going to be treated for what he was diagnosis'd with, the best we could hone in on the diagnosis and that meant that difficult child had to be compliant with it (which he is) and that I was going to have to be allowed to treat him accordingly. If they think I am the cause of the problem, why are they bucking it so much for me to place him somewhere else? Why not let him go out of the home? Wouldn't they be pushing for that? But instead of kletting me place him somewhere, they are forcing this KNOWING that I can't continue this way, then ultimately, they will take him away. It's like they are going out of their way to make sure it looks like I'm to blame.</p><p></p><p>Furthermore, it was bad enough when the judge ordered me to sign release forms for difficult child's mental health providers. But I've about had it with being ordered to sign to agreements to comply with a code of conduct when I don't trust what we are getting here and I can't guarantee them that I will comply. This reminds me of the school's idea of a BIP for difficult child 2 years ago- it was a letter stating that if he ever got in trouble again, he would be removed from school.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 240078, member: 3699"] The two things bugging the most are 1) every time difficult child goes thru a period of instability I go thru this. First, ti was thru day cares and schools- because the issues were coming out there and it became a battle with me thinking they were doing somehing wrong and them thinking it was either a bad kid or a bad parent. The following year, the school again. Then, the GAL, PO and mst guy. But this time, there is really no excuse for the PO going down this road agin. She was there when I testified about all this last year. The times of year that difficult child gets manic and everything. I thought it was an improvement that he hasn't been exhibiting this at school and community- so far, it's being kept in home. So, that doesn't mean that we still don't have room for impreovement, but for someone to say to me that I am causing this problem, after this has been an episodic thing with difficult child for 3 years now really rubs me the wrong way. Especially after already having a hearing discussing difficult child's treatment and having to prove to social services 18 mos ago what all I'd done to try to get difficult child help. PO is aware of all that. Am I going to catch this flack every time difficult child is unstable for the rest of his life? He went out of control because I LET him? You know, the GAL got assigned because I said I couldn't get more help for difficult child. I ended up regretting that because she stirred up stuff that cost me thousands of dollars to prove in court, not to mention my time off work for it all. Now, I'm left again feeling like I need to get an attny on board again and I can't afford it. 2) Probably most of us here have had tdocs that thought it was the parents' fault and that if we just did things their way for some time, they could help the problem. I'm concerned that a therapist is going to show up to do this assessment that doesn't really understand BiPolar (BP) symptoms or thinks medications take care of all them or has already been convinced that difficult child has no problem but me and completely ignore any BiPolar (BP) issues here- so then it would look like an out of control kid. I'm going to call that lady from this place back on Monday and talk to her about this, plus see if I can get something in writing. Furthermore, anyone that does an assessment on us should be familiar working with BiPolar (BP). MST guy said he was but then refused to talk about any of them- he wanted this to all change to difficult child and me and our household dynamics to change to work like there was no mental health issue here. Is that possible if the kid isn't stable? I don't think so. If it was, I don't think we would be here on this board. Super told me today that the assessment might be during the next meeting with PO. I said I thought I'd like some time to talk to the provider alone. He said ok. I asked him to verify that the assessment was going to be at the PO's office? He said he didn't know but it could be and he might stop by there. He said PO would be going over rules and he'd try to pop his head in just to see how things were going. I said should I bring previous reports on difficult child and everything? He said yeah, go ahead and bring that stuff. I swear, this is sounding more and more like this isn't really going to be an assessment- this is going to be orders and threats. Isn't there any way for me to refuse this assessment and say they need to get one by a provider that works with psychiatric disorders? Also, today the super said he didn't care what my financial or any other issues were, he was just concerned about getting difficult child what he needs. Well, how is difficult child going to get what he needs this way when I am telling them that I have no money to continue this? I really think the judge needs to get involved- or someone familiar with BiPolar (BP). The super said ALL the letters from profs said difficult child needed intensive in home services. No, they said we needed in home help thru county team and psychiatrists included that being on probation was interfering with my ability to get difficult child more services. But again, the guy cut me off when I started to say that and told me to listen to him some more. When I testified last Jan, I told judge if my son was going to live in my home, he was going to be treated for what he was diagnosis'd with, the best we could hone in on the diagnosis and that meant that difficult child had to be compliant with it (which he is) and that I was going to have to be allowed to treat him accordingly. If they think I am the cause of the problem, why are they bucking it so much for me to place him somewhere else? Why not let him go out of the home? Wouldn't they be pushing for that? But instead of kletting me place him somewhere, they are forcing this KNOWING that I can't continue this way, then ultimately, they will take him away. It's like they are going out of their way to make sure it looks like I'm to blame. Furthermore, it was bad enough when the judge ordered me to sign release forms for difficult child's mental health providers. But I've about had it with being ordered to sign to agreements to comply with a code of conduct when I don't trust what we are getting here and I can't guarantee them that I will comply. This reminds me of the school's idea of a BIP for difficult child 2 years ago- it was a letter stating that if he ever got in trouble again, he would be removed from school. [/QUOTE]
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