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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 713336" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>The days have gotten even rougher. We may be back in court next week. Possible out of home placement. </p><p></p><p>Friday mornings incident is what pushed us over the edge. She had a friend over Thursday evening. At about 10pm, husband thought he smelled alcohol on her. Friday morning, after the girl went home and Difficult Child was out of her room, I found two glasses that reeked of whiskey. </p><p></p><p>I didn't confront her right away. Trying to get thru this weekend (her birthday is tomorrow) and we see her court supervision officer Monday morning at 8am. But yesterday afternoon she texted me: are you reading my F-ing texts.</p><p></p><p>And yes in the past couple weeks I have been. She spends most of her time on Facebook messenger, Snapchat, and Instagram so I don't see most of what she communicates. But the phone she has I set up and I can see texts. </p><p></p><p> She has only texted three or four people in the last two weeks. One is a guy she used to hang around with that I know is a known drug user. The other is a new guy in her rehab classes that we go to. He had texted her about smoking a joint with her. Mind you this is a 19-year-old man and she has not yet turned 17. Another is a young woman who texted her Thursday night and said what are you doing and my daughter responded drinking and being weird AF. And she replied... Same here. These are people from her intensive outpatient treatment center!! Grrrr!!</p><p></p><p>There is also text to the previous friend here in town about sneaking out to see him during the night. I had seen that and between midnight and 2 AM I had parked my car down the block from his house. It was the night she was staying at her dads house. One of his friends recognize me in my vehicle and must've told her yesterday that I was checking out his house that night. She did not sneak out that night as her sister refused to cover for her. Then she threatened to cut herself if she couldn't leave. And to top that, posted "Wanna Die" as her FB status.</p><p></p><p>So I told her I had been checking on things. She was furious when we asked her to hand over her phone. My husband had to physically take it from her. Then she tried to tip over the coffee table in the family room. I tried calling her court services officer but he was out for the rest the day. I left a message for the social worker from family preservation and she came to our house within 15 minutes.</p><p></p><p>The social worker thought she could have daughter put in detention for the weekend until she saw her officer and probably have court schedule next week. But unfortunately she was not able to do that because she's listed as a CINC case so she can't go to lock up without a court order.</p><p></p><p> When I talk to her about why she would be drinking she said because she doesn't have a problem with alcohol. And besides "I wasn't using meth". She just doesn't get it. She thinks she can be one way with all the adults in her life and at the rehab place and a different way with her friends. It's like it's all a big game. But the games over...and I am not the one who makes the rules any more. It will be the judge, the one who barely allowed us to adopt our DGDs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 713336, member: 12511"] The days have gotten even rougher. We may be back in court next week. Possible out of home placement. Friday mornings incident is what pushed us over the edge. She had a friend over Thursday evening. At about 10pm, husband thought he smelled alcohol on her. Friday morning, after the girl went home and Difficult Child was out of her room, I found two glasses that reeked of whiskey. I didn't confront her right away. Trying to get thru this weekend (her birthday is tomorrow) and we see her court supervision officer Monday morning at 8am. But yesterday afternoon she texted me: are you reading my F-ing texts. And yes in the past couple weeks I have been. She spends most of her time on Facebook messenger, Snapchat, and Instagram so I don't see most of what she communicates. But the phone she has I set up and I can see texts. She has only texted three or four people in the last two weeks. One is a guy she used to hang around with that I know is a known drug user. The other is a new guy in her rehab classes that we go to. He had texted her about smoking a joint with her. Mind you this is a 19-year-old man and she has not yet turned 17. Another is a young woman who texted her Thursday night and said what are you doing and my daughter responded drinking and being weird AF. And she replied... Same here. These are people from her intensive outpatient treatment center!! Grrrr!! There is also text to the previous friend here in town about sneaking out to see him during the night. I had seen that and between midnight and 2 AM I had parked my car down the block from his house. It was the night she was staying at her dads house. One of his friends recognize me in my vehicle and must've told her yesterday that I was checking out his house that night. She did not sneak out that night as her sister refused to cover for her. Then she threatened to cut herself if she couldn't leave. And to top that, posted "Wanna Die" as her FB status. So I told her I had been checking on things. She was furious when we asked her to hand over her phone. My husband had to physically take it from her. Then she tried to tip over the coffee table in the family room. I tried calling her court services officer but he was out for the rest the day. I left a message for the social worker from family preservation and she came to our house within 15 minutes. The social worker thought she could have daughter put in detention for the weekend until she saw her officer and probably have court schedule next week. But unfortunately she was not able to do that because she's listed as a CINC case so she can't go to lock up without a court order. When I talk to her about why she would be drinking she said because she doesn't have a problem with alcohol. And besides "I wasn't using meth". She just doesn't get it. She thinks she can be one way with all the adults in her life and at the rehab place and a different way with her friends. It's like it's all a big game. But the games over...and I am not the one who makes the rules any more. It will be the judge, the one who barely allowed us to adopt our DGDs. [/QUOTE]
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