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<blockquote data-quote="ABS" data-source="post: 503219" data-attributes="member: 13718"><p>We don't really know the full extent of what her birth mother did while pregnant. Shortly after getting pregnant she went "wild" as my husband puts it. She began disappearing for days at a time, staying at strange houses and lying quite a bit. My husband knows for certain she did smoke cigarettes off and on and highly suspects alcohol and marijuana but wasn't able to prove it. There's a high possibility for prescription abuse as well because shortly after she disappeared when my daughter was just a small toddler, she was arrested from attempting to steal prescription drugs from an elderly woman at knife point. She received 6 years in prison for that crime and after she was released our information became sketchy as to what route she went with her life.</p><p></p><p>As far as behaviors, my husband tells me she acts a lot like her biological mother. She even looks almost identical to her. I think that's what scares me so much because I don't want the same life for my daughter. Her mother was very sexually active at a young age, has/had substance abuse issues, was very impulsive and violent and thats just what I know about her from 10 or so years ago. </p><p></p><p>Part of me has always wanted to believe that environment(nurture) can trump nature because my mother is a raging alcoholic with men issues and I turned out the complete opposite. My husband's parents also suffered with substance abuse issues and he doesn't drink nor has he done illegal drugs. Part of me always thought that we used the bad example our parents gave us and learned from it to become better people. That being said, nature has to have more of a play in things than I'd like to believe. How else could you explain a 12 y/o who hasn't seen her mother in 10-11 years acting like her twin? </p><p></p><p>In more positive news, we as a family went to the park, dinner and shopping tonight. My daughter had a few times of defiance/anger/impulse control issues but overall we had a great time. We go out every Saturday as a family and haven't had a night that hasn't resulted in a meltdown in three weeks. Small victories <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ABS, post: 503219, member: 13718"] We don't really know the full extent of what her birth mother did while pregnant. Shortly after getting pregnant she went "wild" as my husband puts it. She began disappearing for days at a time, staying at strange houses and lying quite a bit. My husband knows for certain she did smoke cigarettes off and on and highly suspects alcohol and marijuana but wasn't able to prove it. There's a high possibility for prescription abuse as well because shortly after she disappeared when my daughter was just a small toddler, she was arrested from attempting to steal prescription drugs from an elderly woman at knife point. She received 6 years in prison for that crime and after she was released our information became sketchy as to what route she went with her life. As far as behaviors, my husband tells me she acts a lot like her biological mother. She even looks almost identical to her. I think that's what scares me so much because I don't want the same life for my daughter. Her mother was very sexually active at a young age, has/had substance abuse issues, was very impulsive and violent and thats just what I know about her from 10 or so years ago. Part of me has always wanted to believe that environment(nurture) can trump nature because my mother is a raging alcoholic with men issues and I turned out the complete opposite. My husband's parents also suffered with substance abuse issues and he doesn't drink nor has he done illegal drugs. Part of me always thought that we used the bad example our parents gave us and learned from it to become better people. That being said, nature has to have more of a play in things than I'd like to believe. How else could you explain a 12 y/o who hasn't seen her mother in 10-11 years acting like her twin? In more positive news, we as a family went to the park, dinner and shopping tonight. My daughter had a few times of defiance/anger/impulse control issues but overall we had a great time. We go out every Saturday as a family and haven't had a night that hasn't resulted in a meltdown in three weeks. Small victories :) [/QUOTE]
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